The origami frog fluttered out of my career journal. When I unwrapped and smoothed it out, it revealed notes from a work shop I had taken during graduate school that still apply today. The page read:
Positive ways to handle conflict
- Pick your battles, focus on the most important things and let the rest go. Not all things are worth a fight.
- Assume that people have the best intentions. Most people don’t do things out of spite- they just don’t see the repercussions of their actions.
- Choose the right time and place- its best to bring up issues in private. Avoid confronting someone when you’re angry. Resolve to stay calm.
- Stick to one issue at a time, and be specific about what is bothering you. Say what you would like to see done or changed, and then check in the other person.
- Avoid getting defensive. Ask questions to get more information, such as “can you help me understand what you mean?”
- Be positive, no matter what. If you’re polite, most people will be polite in return.
Sound stuff
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Love the first one, especially. A friend of mine always says, “Choose which crosses you pick up carefully, because you might end up being nailed to one.” Not all things are worth a fight, indeed!
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My PopPop (granddad) use to say that as well 🙂 . Thanks for reading.
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All very sage advice! I’m all about positive thinking!
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I agree negative thinking and negative people don’t get you anywhere. Thanks for reading.
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