What if I can’t afford it? Even if your therapist doesn’t take insurance your plan may reimburse a portion of the fee, and some therapists will negotiate lower rates if you pay out of pocket. Alternatively, your company’s employee assistance program may provide free short-term therapy. You can also look into the university psychology departments, some offer sessions with therapists in training. Or check out the none profit Open Path Psychotherapy Collective, which connects patients in need with therapist who accept discounted rates (to sign up, there’s a onetime fee of $65)

Can I see my friend’s therapist? Ideally no. Many therapists won’t treat two pepe who know each other because it could compromise their objectivity. Also, you and your friend may be tempted to compare notes. A therapist may have a reason for developing different treatment plans for different people. Your friend’s therapist can, however, refer you to a colleague.

What if we don’t click? You should have a comfortable and respectful rapport with your therapist. If your gut says this person isn’t for you, you can tell them that and see if you two can resolve concerns. But it’s also okay to move on. Therapists have different styles, and if say, tough love isn’t your jam, you can try again. It may feel like a bummer to have to start your story over, you’re playing the long game so it’s worth the redo.