Joy Alarm

What small practice might connect you to joy each day? when would this habit best serve you? (morning, midday, evening?) what would make this habit easy to maintain, even on difficult days? Remember, the most powerful habits aren’t the most complex: they’re the ones you’ll actually practice consistently.

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The Garden of Last Days

I recently finished “The Garden of Last Days” (2008) by Andre Dubus III and wanted to share my thoughts. Although it is a follow-up to “House of Sand and Fog,” (I never read it) I found that this 535-page novel stands perfectly well on its own. Dubus’s writing style is incredibly immersive, he pulled me in from the very first paragraph.

The story follows the interweaving lives of several individuals in Florida in the days leading up to the September 11 attacks. Dubus creates an intense and realistic portrait of characters whose lives are often overlooked: April, a strip club dancer preoccupied with her toddler in the back room; AJ, a man thrown out of the club for being overly friendly; and Bassam, one of the suspected hijackers struggling with his desire for spiritual purity against the temptations of the flesh.

The character development and three-dimensionality are key to the book’s success. By alternating between the viewpoints of April, AJ, and Bassam, Dubus highlights how differently individuals can interpret the same incident. Each character is seriously flawed, leading the reader to question their motives and morality. Ultimately, the book explores life in shades of gray rather than black and white.

The tension throughout the novel is palpable, and while the stories conclude unexpectedly, they remain entirely credible. This would be an excellent, challenging choice for a book club.

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Party task

What can I do to help?…i do Post-it notes, like ‘Fill the glasses with ice,’ ‘Light the candles,’” and I put them on the cabinet above my kitchen counter,” she said. “Then I put out the salad bowl with the tomatoes or the lemons or whatever needs to be cut, and everything is set up so when somebody comes in, they do what they want to do.” – Jill Biden

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America’s Diverse Heritage

Unless you are 100% native American, your ancestors were immigrants. Some had an easier time when they got here. Some came voluntarily. Others did not. Everyone contributed to the complex history of the United States. It is a grand and hopeful experiment in living together. It is full of diversity. We are all important in the story of “US.”

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Revive Your Relationship: Communicate 

Talk to your partner the way you did when you were dating. Many couples stop investing the time, attention and affection that once came naturally. Courtesy, curiosity and warmth shouldn’t disappear with familiarity.

Catch your partner doing something right. People are far more motivated by appreciation than criticism. Rather than comment on when they mess up, compliment them when they get it right. Marital researcher John Gottman discovered that in successful couple relationships, there are five positive interactions for every negative one.

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