Makin it Work

How do you stay motivated during long term projects… I have a side gig as a career consultant, where I help job seekers. In my day job, there are channels of approval that my decisions need to go through, and some times it can make me doubt myself. What I love about my side hustle is that I’m running the show, and I get to be the expert. That makes me surer of myself. This confidence transfer over to my day job and motivities me to be more outspoken in group setting during long term projects. -Sonia Acosta

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Hair Confidence

once a former company I worked for wanted me to speak to their top executives, but only if I silk pressed my hair straight. I beautifully (and professionally) declined the invitation and sashayed away. However, it hurt deep down to know that I would only be accepted if I put on the “crown” they wanted me to have on for that day. Thankfully, I’m confident enough to know that my hair does not define me; it only accessorizes me. From my huge ‘fro to my locs, I love my hair no matter what! – Que’Ana Morris Jackson


Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…

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Guest Post: War

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I will not play tug of war
I will play love of war
Where everyone kisses
And loves instead everyone to tug

                                                                                     – Dshawn 3rd grade

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10 Quick Tips to Lessen Your Anxiety

If you’ve ever had a panic attack or are struggling with anxiety, these tips will help you manage your symptoms and perhaps lessen your tension.

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1. Breathe. Most people actually hold their breath when they get too anxious, which only makes you more nervous because it feels like you are smothering as well. So remember to breathe. It may be the oldest trick in the book, but it works.

2. Slow down. Panic will make you feel like you need to do something drastic. Be sure to look before you leap, and make sure the choices you are making will help.

3. Don’t drive. If you are driving and feel an attack coming on, get off the road immediately and if there is a real emergency, have someone else drive.

4. Take your meds (with you). If you are taking anti-anxiety medications, don’t forget to keep them handy, so you know they are available if needed. Keeping a bottle with a few pills in your glove compartment can be a subconscious reminder that things are okay, and perhaps make your commute a little easier.

5. Exercise. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to put on your sneakers and go for a walk or a run.

6. Turn off the TV. If watching the news makes you nervous, stop. The world will not come to an end without you knowing it.

7. Take a hot bath or a shower. This can sometimes be an instant fix, but you should let yourself soak in the peace of the moment. Allow the warmth to calm you, and allow yourself to feel safe. The feeling of being clean is also anxiety reducing, so the whole process can diminish any panic.

8. Take a nap. It may seem counterintuitive when you have all that adrenaline running through you, but anxiety is exhausting. Giving yourself a chance to sleep

9. Get some fresh air.  Being unable to breathe properly can cause panic, and sitting in a stuffy house can make that happen.

10. Just let yourself be anxious. If you know that you tend to get nervous sometimes, and you do your best to manage it, the next time you feel it in your body, remind yourself that this is what’s happening and that you don’t have to act on it. Tell yourself that you will be okay, and soon enough, you will indeed be feeling better.

Not all of these tips will work for everyone, but if just one of them can help you avoid a panic attack, it’s worth keeping in your bag of tricks. Panic is no fun, and it’s not mandatory.

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Where can I learn about which companies are being socially responsible, treating employees well and being good to the environment?

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One useful reference is Corporate Responsibility Magazine’s annual list, The 100 Best Corporate Citizens. It’s ranking take into considerations a company’s performance on climate change, employee relations, human rights, corporate governance, finical performance and philanthropy.  The top 10 companies for 2017 are Hasbro, Intel, Microsoft, Altria, Campbell Soup, Cisco Systems, Accenture, Hormel Foods, Lockheed Martin and Ecolab (You’ll find the entire list at

Learn more about socially responsible companies at sites such as,  and

**2017 is NOT a typo I am positively purging , but the links are still current and message of this post is still valid. **



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