“What rituals support me best?” Not the expected or prescribed, but those rituals that truly support our well-being from the inside out.
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I am not sure how Think and Be Postive Daily author Preston Heights ( 2020, 75 pages) came into my possession, but I ended up reading it on a flight because it was my only available reading material. In short, it was a frustrating experience.
I should have taken the author’s opening words as a warning rather than a challenge: “I wasn’t thinking about how much money would be made fincally from writing it, but rather I wanted to simply write a book because I never written a book before” (1).
Unfortunately, the book completely lacks editing, structure, and flow. The topics are entirely disorganized, with the author jumping frantically from self-help tips and business advice to random relationship guidance, pop culture quotes, and biblical citations. Worse still, he cuts his own compelling story short. He writes about how an article featuring the filmmakers of Soul Food inspired him to attend Columbia College Chicago, how college debt forced him out during his final year, and how he worked various jobs before liquidating his 401(k) to chase a dream. Yet, he never clearly defines what that dream actually is, nor does he explain how his financial debt truly impacted him.
The text reads more like a rough collection of TED Talk notes than a cohesive book. This feeling is reinforced on pages 58–67, which look like a literal slide presentation, and on page 69, where the book abruptly transitions into blank pages for notes, goals, and affirmations.
With time to kill on my flight, I googled the author to see if this text was originally a TED Talk and actually found a talk online. While the video answered some of my questions, anyone solely reading the book will find themselves asking too many questions with zero answers. Ironically, the author himself seems to have struggled with focus, writing: “as you go after the dreams that you have, constantly ask yourself who, what and why am I doing it for and ask yourself who am I becoming in the process” (46). If the author had taken his own advice to heart and focused on answering those exact questions, this story could have truly inspired readers.
Where have you noticed your fear of disappointment keeping you stuck? Is it in asking for help, speaking up about what’s bothering you, or expressing what you need? Journal on which strategy resonates most with where you are right now.
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People who can say “no” are people who can be honest. People who tell you their limits aren’t rejecting you—they’re being authentic and genuine. That’s the foundation of trust. You don’t want people who say “yes” out of obligation and then resent you. You want people who say “yes” because they mean it, and “no” when they need to.
The point isn’t to stop caring about disappointment. The point is to stop letting the fear of it make your relational decisions for you. Minaa
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What if part of why you feel stuck is because what you’re asking for is too small?
When you play small with your healing, your joy, your health, your money, your next chapter, sometimes you can get small relief. And worse, sometimes you can stay stuck because the ask doesn’t give you enough energy to change the pattern. It doesn’t put you in the mindset to take the bigger action, make the bigger move, or even believe the bigger thing could be yours.
But when you allow yourself to ask for something grand, something abundant, something life-changing, it shifts how you move. You start looking for different doors. You start having different conversations. You start making decisions from the possibility that your life can actually be good, not just a little more tolerable.
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