How to be a villager

“Everybody’s longing for community. We long to be part of a village. We long to have
people come over and help us. But when’s the last time you’ve hosted something? When’s the last time you helped somebody move? When’s the last time you picked somebody up at the airport?” – Priya Parker

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Better Productivity

decide in advance when you will rest, move your body, eat, or step away from work so those needs do not become an afterthought. and if you’re working from home, bonus points for designating areas in the home where you work and areas in the home that are “off limits” for working and dedicated to your rest.

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Prioritize Your Needs First

choose one consistent time each day to check in with yourself and notice what you need before moving into the rest of your responsibilities and before assisting others.

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Regifting

This is in reference to the letter about giving gifts to adults from “Feeling Bah-humbug” who wrote: “My significant other and I are at the stage in life where we really do not need more ‘stuff’ and would rather not deal with gifts that are generic at best and usually are re-gifted promptly via donation or gift-economy communities.”

We had the same problem. Solved it! Instead of buying gifts, we determined a monetary amount we probably would spend on a gift. We picked $50. Could be any amount.

Every year one person was in charge of collecting the money from everyone. That person donated that amount to their favorite charity. Next year, the next person collected the money and donated it to their favorite charity. Worked great! – Regifting

Dear Regifting: What I love most about this solution, in addition to giving a meaningful pot of money to a charity, is that it gives your family the chance to learn about each other through what causes you care about.

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The Facts of Life

That you were born

and you will die.

That you will sometimes love enough

and sometimes not.

That you will lie

if only to yourself.

That you will get tired.

That you will learn most from the situations

you did not choose.

That there will be some things that move you

more than you can say.

That you will live

that you must be loved.

That you will avoid questions most urgently in need of

your attention.

That you began as the fusion of a sperm and an egg

of two people who once were strangers

and may well still be.

That life isn’t fair.

That life is sometimes good

and sometimes better than good.

That life is often not so good.

That life is real

and if you can survive it, well,

survive it well

with love

and art

and meaning given

where meaning’s scarce.

That you will learn to live with regret.

That you will learn to live with respect.

That the structures that constrict you

may not be permanently constraining.

That you will probably be okay.

That you must accept change

before you die

but you will die anyway.

So you might as well live

and you might as well love.

You might as well love.

You might as well love.

, by Pádraig Ó Tuama

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