Talk about their behavior, not character

Instead of saying, “You’re lazy, selfish, mean,” talk about how their behavior affects you. Say: “When you say you’ll be home by 7 and don’t show up till 8:30, and you don’t call to let me know, I feel hurt, resentful, taken for granted,” instead of, “You’re so self-centered and cruel that you didn’t even have the decency to let me know you’d be late!” The former is more effective because it centers the behavior on your reaction and not the other’s character traits.

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(im)possible

Ask yourself: What do I have right now that I used to think was impossible to have access to?

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Breathe

It is not your job to hold up the sky.

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Sometimes God Has a Kid’s Face

On the street I saw a girl cold and shriving in a thin dress, with little hope of a decent meal. I became angry and said to God: ‘Why did you permit this? Why don’t you do something about it?’ For a while God said nothing. That night he replied quite suddenly: ‘I certainly did something about it. I made you’”(80)

I recently read “Sometimes God Has a Kid’s Face” (110 pages, 2010) by Sister Mary Rose McGeady. It is a poignant and heart-wrenching collection of stories detailing the struggles of young people seeking refuge at Covenant House. The book offers a difficult but powerful glimpse into the lives of children forced to choose between abusive homes and the dangers of the streets. — “Very dark world, filled with pimps and pushers and pornographers who make a livelihood out of feeding off scared kids like Sheila.” (65).

I found the reflection questions in the book particularly impactful, especially those concerning the safety and emotional well-being of our own children and their friends.—Where is your child right now? What are your teens’ deepest fears? Who is your child’s best friend? Does your teens friends feel welcome in your home?(104)

While Sister McGeady depicts Covenant House as a vital safe haven, I was deeply pissed off to learn about the national scandal involving the organization’s founder, Father Bruce Ritter, and the sexual allegations from 1989-1990. I found myself wondering how much the organization has truly improved since that time. However, I did check Charity Navigator and found 54 locations with four- and five-star ratings, which suggests a reputable standing today.

Have you read this book or ever donated to Covenant House? I would be interested to hear your thoughts on the organization. While the content is difficult to process, I highly recommend the book as a powerful eye-opener.

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Expressing Gratitude

I recently received a message that reminded me how meaningful it is to express appreciation. I let myself sit with how nice it is to be able to express appreciation.  It is so nice to be able to say, “Thank you,” to people.  It feels rich in the body. 

It helps somebody else feel seen.  It’s so nice to be able to do that.Being able to say “thank you” is a powerful experience that makes others feel truly seen, especially in an ever-changing world.

I am so grateful to everyone who visits “Real Life of an MSW” to read what I call “beautiful soundbites”—those moments intended to make you smile, ponder, laugh, or feel inspired.

For those wondering about the “heart signals,” they represent exactly what you might think: I am sending you good vibes and sincere thanks for taking the time to comment. I also want to apologize for any WordPress glitches that may prevent your comments from appearing. Please know that if I see your message, I will reply; if it remains private due to a technical error, please view it as a beautiful private conversation between us.

❤ —Thanks for taking the time to read, comment, and for your continued support.

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