Don’t hear what wasn’t said

Posted on June 9, 2026 by msw blog

I heard this quote online: “Don’t hear what I didn’t say.” And it speaks volumes. So many of us distort reality by filling in the blanks with our worst fears. Someone says, “I can’t help you today,” and you hear, “You’re annoying.”

Sometimes the story you’re telling yourself is the problem—not what the other person actually said. You’re projecting your fears onto neutral information, and that’s why you feel bad. It has nothing to do with them and everything to do with the narrative you’ve created. Practice hearing exactly what was said. Not what you fear it means. Minaa

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You Can’t Touch My Hair

Posted on June 9, 2026 by msw blog

You Can’t Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have to Explain Phoebe Robinson(2016, 320 pages) I came across this book in my stack and smiled, remembering that I had asked for it as a birthday gift years ago. I’m pretty sure I chose it for the title alone because I knew nothing about Phoebe Robinson. I learned she is a standup comedian, If you’re already a fan of hers, you’d probably enjoy it. But going in unfamiliar with her work, I found the book hard to follow. It is packed with TV and pop-culture references, and Robinson often starts with a point, veers into a long tangent about a film or show, and never fully returns to the original idea. The book ended up feeling scattered. When she began ranking the members of U2 by who she’d most want to sleep with, I stopped reading and put the book in my free library. 

While fans of Phoebe Robinson might enjoy her style, this was a helpful reminder for me not to choose books solely by their title or cover. Hopefully, the next reader will appreciate it more.

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 Creating Your Reality

Posted on June 8, 2026 by msw blog

Thoughts become things, and we can make our lives happy or sad with what we think about. I truly believe this, and I have seen it play out in my life, where I have created chaos in my life from my thoughts when I was younger, and I have also created luck, opportunity and even success for myself.

No matter how hard life gets, know it will pass, and we have the strength to get through it calmly, wisely, and even be able to laugh at points.

Take time to hibernate, be still, trust in yourself and enjoy the present moment.

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Understanding Personal Limits: A Mindset Shift

Posted on June 8, 2026 by msw blog

Separate disappointment from unworthiness….When someone says “I can’t,” practice translating what you hear. Instead of “You’re too much,” remind yourself: “This person has limits and they’re being honest about their capacity.” Disappointment is not a referendum on your value. It’s information about what’s possible in this moment with this person.

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Crafting Colorful Gardens

Posted on June 7, 2026 by msw blog

Not all garden color has to come from blooming plants. You can repurpose items like thrift store dishes into decorative backdrops by gluing them to a stake, or even make garden borders by “planting” the plates in a row. Add pebbles to a decorative plate or tray to create a bee or butterfly water station. Lay colorful but broken containers on the ground and plant a spreading groundcover to spill out of the opening. If you’re really crafty, make plant markers, wind chimes, or other yard art from old or thrifted silverware.

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