During the holidays, my husband and I met a new neighbor at a holiday party.

We exchanged information and decided we’d get together for lunch in the near future.

Well, I got a text from this neighbor yesterday, asking my husband and me over for “cocktails and snacks.”

We decided on a day and time and she then proceeded to tell us to bring whatever we want to drink – and she’ll supply the appetizers.

My husband thinks this is rude. I think it’s weird.

Your thoughts?

– Bringing Our Own

Dear Bringing: How rude or weird this is might depend on where you’re from. In some cultures and communities, BYOB is not considered too far outside the norm.

This host might have put you more at ease if she had worded the request a little differently – for instance, something like: “I don’t serve alcohol at home, but you’re more than welcome to bring your own. I’ll have seltzer and iced tea on hand.”

As it is, you’re left to wonder what exactly the motivation is to be invited for “cocktails and snacks” when it is really just snacks.

As you get to know this neighbor, her attitude toward entertaining will be revealed.