I am the nanny of two 10yearold girls this summer, and I am concerned with comments they have made about their looks.
Both are normalsize, healthy girls with regular bodies, but I have heard them say how fat they think they are at least five or six times. One time one girl complained about her “big belly,” and the other said, “I need to work out soooo bad; I’m so fat.” Amy, these girls are 10! I always tell them that they are beautiful girls and are a healthy size.
I am wondering if this is the proper way to handle this kind of talk, or what I could possibly do to make these girls believe that they are not fat.
I do not want them to suffer the same selfesteem issues so many women (including myself) face.— Wondering in Illinois
For the First Time, More Than 4 in 10 US Women Are Obese. That was the top article on the side of the newspaper page. The lower right column read “London’s ‘fat-shaming’ ads banned from transit.” In the middle was my favorite advice columnist (Talk about an Op-Ed piece waiting to happen.). I focused my energies on the advice columnist. To every girl, young or old, I provide the advice that my mother passed on to me. “You are beautiful just as you are. Be careful of the words you use to describe yourself, because one day you will look in the mirror and be that woman.” What’s the best or worst body image advice you have ever received?