Instead of lashing out in anger, I’d write my spouse a letter explaining why I was hurt and put it on his desk,” recalled Valerie Wilson Wesley, a Manhattan author married for 51 years who penned a dating column when she was executive editor at Essence magazine. “Putting what was wrong into words allowed me to get what I was feeling straight. He’d usually take a few days to mull it over before he’d respond with his own letter, often starting with “I’m sorry,” explaining his side. Then we’d forgive each other.”

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