Have you ever felt completely torn between someone you love and the life that you want? Especially if these two things are/feel like oil and water?

In my experience, the right partnership expands with you instead of shrinking around you. When you move toward a larger life, the relationship either grows its own legs or it fades under the weight. It isn’t a failure when it fades, though it may feel like a loss. It’s new information. I think it just means the life that wants you is pointing in another direction. Loving someone is one thing, and building a life that suits your soul is another. When they don’t line up, you feel that truth in your body. No getting away from it, really.—Yrsa