Practice asking, even when you’re afraid of the answer. Start small. Ask for help with something low-stakes. Express a need. Speak up about what’s bothering you. The goal isn’t to get a “yes” every time—it’s to prove to yourself that you can survive hearing “no.” Each time you ask, and the relationship doesn’t end, you’re retraining your nervous system.

“Toothpicks act as micro plugs to fill gaps and nail holes,” says Kavouklis. “Coat with wood glue, insert into hole, snap off flush with surface, sand down. You can’t see the flaw once it’s stained or painted over.”