Give yourself the gift of joy. A gift to yourself can be a splurge or something simple that makes you happy. It can be jewelry, a piece of art or a high-tech kitchen gadget. As you are shopping for holiday gifts for friends — a scented candle, fancy olive oil or a bouquet — buy one for yourself, too. It might be tickets to a show or arranging child care so you can have a night out. Don’t be stingy with yourself.

Give your best hours of the day to yourself. Ask yourself: When do I feel my best? My most productive? My happiest? Now ask yourself what you do with that time. Chances are you are spending those hours answering emails, running errands or doing chores. This holiday, resolve to give one or two of your best daily hours to yourself. Use that time for something you care about — a creative project, a walk, reading a good book or coffee with friends.

Give yourself a break. This is the cheapest and simplest gift on the list and the hardest one to give. Studies show that when we are kind to ourselves — researchers call it self-compassion — we become stronger, more resilient and less focused on our problems. Self-compassion stems from centuries of Buddhist tradition, but it’s a skill that needs to be cultivated. Start by allowing yourself to be imperfect.