Instead of saying, “You’re lazy, selfish, mean,” talk about how their behavior affects you. Say: “When you say you’ll be home by 7 and don’t show up till 8:30, and you don’t call to let me know, I feel hurt, resentful, taken for granted,” instead of, “You’re so self-centered and cruel that you didn’t even have the decency to let me know you’d be late!” The former is more effective because it centers the behavior on your reaction and not the other’s character traits.

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