Dear God, Grant us the grace to quiet the noise around us to hear your voice within us and to choose compassion and humanity in all we do— Amen!
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Define the end goal. “Before you touch a single item,” Sultan says, “start at the other end.” Define the goal first by asking what you want your life to look like, who are you becoming or what you are trying to make room for, and then look at what you own through that lens. The question to ask yourself, he says, is not “Do I like this?” or “Might I need this someday?” It should be “Is this helping me get where I am going?” For most items under the umbrella of conservation clutter, Sultan says, the answer is no.
Ask the right questions to shift your mindset. “Mindset shifts are likely to help you overcome the challenges you may face when decluttering,” Tate says. She tells her clients to use what she calls “reflective questions” to guide decision-making: How many possible uses could have happened since owning this item? How many uses actually occurred? If not you, then who could benefit from this item?Jolie Kerr
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Which outdated technology do you miss the most, and why?
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This is hard to say, but it’s true: some people enjoy hurting others.They like knowing they can affect you. They like the power. They like the control. And they’re not going to change until something makes them pay a real price for it.
You probably know these people. Maybe they’re in your family. The sibling who was always mean to you and never apologized. The parent who knew exactly how to make you feel unloved. Or, maybe it’s a different relationship—the friend who makes “jokes” that are really insults, the partner who weaponizes incompetence, or the coworker who undermines you in meetings.
Some people don’t cause hurt because they’re hurting. Some people simply don’t want to be kind; instead, they want their cruel actions to be accommodated. Minna b
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My wife and I are financing our granddaughter’s college education. She has spent the last two years enjoying the social life at her sorority and traveling to vacation spots. Her GPA is poor and she has had to repeat two courses.
Do we have a right to say she must maintain a better GPA, or we will consider withdrawing our financial assistance?
Dear Granddad: You sure do! Firstly, it’s your money and you have the right to do what you want with it. The tuition payments may be a gift presented without strings, but there are still plenty of reasonable expectations that come with a college education. She’s not meeting the college’s expectations in some ways – and is suffering the consequences. It’s fair to have a recalibrating conversation with her and her parents.The conversation will go best if you keep the focus on establishing a reasonable shared set of goals that can be achieved by the combination of your funds and her efforts.
Ask her what she wants to accomplish in college. If she’s not engaged with her major or her classes and, therefore, not doing the work or not performing well, it’s not worth her time or your money. She may need more guidance about how to best make college work for her. It’s not always a plug-and-play situation.
Consider finding other metrics of success in addition to GPA. Obviously, her grades are important but they’re not the only way of determining if she’s making the most of her college education. Include her in naming some other metrics, as well. Her failure to lock in may be a sign of immaturity; this is natural. Being challenged to play a more active role in her education and her own success is a great way of building skills that will benefit her as she steps further into adulthood.
