How do couples start conversation around intimacy and sex? For women, the biggest thing is being comfortable with your body and knowing what please you. Often , we don’t have a clue, but we want our partner to figure it out. It helps if you do some body discovery work, to learn wat feels good to you- and then you can show your partner. Not necessarily by always telling them, but in the moment, guiding their hands and using some of those nonverbal cues could be very helpful.