Tension Between Adult Children and Their Parents

I’m a grown millennial. My parents are aging. Unfortunately, I don’t have much in common with them. I live nearby and they want me to visit them every week. They’re disorganized and I like to be organized. They don’t plan for the future, and live day by day. They are always in debt, while I am frugal. The list goes on and on. We have different hobbies and religions, too. It’s tough. They are over 70 and I’m dreading the caregiving years.I can’t be the only person in this situation. How should grown children deal with parents with whom they have little in common?

– Anonymous

Reading this this Jonnie Mitchell lyrics popped into my head “You don’t know what you got until it’s gone” Secondly, I agree with Amy advice, “It is vital that you take good care of yourself. This includes establishing boundaries, understanding that you will not be able to control or change them, and practicing the all-important level of compassionate detachment where you are able to enjoy some of your time with them, despite your differences in temperament and lifestyle.”  I would suggest setting up monthly outings, or dinners where they can learn more about each other.  What advice would you suggest?

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