What is the deal with BYOB and potlucks? It seems like every time I attend one of these parties, issues arise: No one labels their dishes (either with their name to get a container back or with ingredients so that others know what’s in the dish); some people bring cheap wine or booze, and others bring nice bottles, and the nice stuff always goes first. Do you hide your nice bottle of wine so that you still get some later in the evening? That doesn’t seem very gracious or in the spirit of sharing. Is there a way to BYOB/potluck successfully?-Potluck

Talking to my dear friend S, I found myself laughing so hard my eyes were watering. S was ranting on about people- their silly etiquette questions and refusal to speak up on how to handle what she thought were basic issues of standing up for yourself (I even…