In Janes Austin day, many women would visit their girlfriends for weeks at a time. We don’t do that anymore. When we do decide to get together, many of us are more likely to plan a girls weekend at a spa or some other extraordinary adventure. There’s value in that , of course, but something special happens when you visit a friend in  her everyday life, when you spend ordinary time with her. There’s a depth and joy in the  small moments – when you learn where she sits to have her coffee in the morning or which tree in her neighborhood is her favorite -that makes them linger with us – Jessica Francis Kane