Found a Good One

“Tell or Not Tell” wondered about disclosing the sexual abuse she had survived as a child to the man she was dating.

I had been divorced for five years when I went on a first date with a man I had just met.

On our way to the restaurant, we were stuck in traffic behind a car with a bumper sticker that said “Help Stamp Out Child Abuse.”

“Why would someone put a bumper sticker like that on their car?” he asked.

I thought for a moment before answering and said, “I suppose the car belongs to someone like me who was molested as a child.”

My date didn’t ask for any more details at that moment because he was trying not to wreck the car.

I knew from his instantly shocked reaction that this was a man with whom my children would be safe, and he has been — for 37 years now.

So I vote that this woman should tell him and see what happens.

What he says and does next will tell her exactly what she needs to know.

Found a Good One

Dear Found: This brings tears to my eyes. Thank you.

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5 Responses to Found a Good One

  1. adguru101 says:

    What a wonderful story. And generally speaking, the more open and honest you are, the likelier you are to find out what you need to know about someone else.

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  2. adguru101 says:

    Plus, you’re not that invested yet 😉

    Liked by 1 person

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