Whenever you’re feeling disconnected you need a clearing conversation, in which both partners air there feelings and voice any assumptions. Most couples feel reconnected after catching up on surface level and deep topics. Once you verbalize issues (start with “lately I’ve been feeling like ….”) ask yourself what you might be responsible for. Then together, find a way to make it better, restorative justice style. That means finding a solution, not a punishment that fits the “crime” been working through dinner all week? make a reservation at their favorite  spot. said a not -so-nice- comment? write a love letter (a post it counts)