These questions make for enriching dinner table conversation, but they can be equally illuminating if you simply ask them of yourself. I stumbled onto the idea of asking big questions because I needed them myself. They drive our growth, and we can come back to them year after year.

1. Pick a significant change in your life. What transition took place as a result?
2. Do you have a pattern in how you deal with endings? Do you just keep moving or make space to mourn or acknowledge what was lost? Do you accept that something or someone has passed?
3. What endings are incomplete?
4. How can you create a way to bring closure to unfinished business?
5. How do you handle sensations of discomfort in transitions?
6. What happens when you lessen your resistance and increase acceptance to not knowing?
7. Try new things, go to new places, meet new people, learn new skills as if you’re trying on new clothes, asking, “Does this feel right?”
8. Create a system of support. Sense what enjoyment or being refreshed feels like in the body. What do you know now that you didn’t before?