REALLY LISTEN: A lot of us listen so we can formulate a reply or listen to solve, but what people need to be heard. The most powerful three words you can say, to someone you love are “Tell me More”
PRACTICE LITTLE KINDNESS: Research has long shown that for every negative interaction in a relationship, you should aim for five positive ones “small gestures go a long way” You might send your partner a text saying your partner a text dating “you looked so nice today for example, or drop off some freshly baked cookies for a friend whose has a hard week.
RESPOND TO CUES: Maybe your dad is reading the paper and says, “Huh, that’s interesting” or a friend texts you. “I’m having a day!” Those are attempts to connect, and it’s important to honor them. You’re not going to pick up on every bid for attention and neither will they. But interacting as much as you can will help your loved ones know how much you value them.