It’s hard to host a thought-out dinner when you’re ballin’ on a budget. Can I request that my guests chip in cash?
I have addressed similar questions in the past, you can read about them here , here, and here. In short, my answer has always been no. I am a firm believer you do not have to impress your real friends. I have also learned dinner parties are less about the food, and more about the individuals that are invited to the party and good conversation.
Albeit, after talking this over with the young adults in my life, and reading Alex’s reply to this query which reads “Yes, it is sending your friends a message such as… I’m dying to cook an amazing elaborate dinner for you (other names of mutual friends who’ll be there). Are you free (date at least two weeks away)? The thing is, I have a big dream but I’m on a budget, so I was wondering if you would be willingly to chip in $10 to $20 for groceries.”
My answer is still no. If they are too broke they should make this amazing black -eyed pea stew or any other delicious soup. I believe Cesar Chavez said it best “If you really want to make a friend, go to someone’s house and eat with them… the people who give you their food give you their heart” because dinner parties are about sustenance and community.