I’m going through some tough times. I’ve always been strong and independent, and I think I’ve also been a good friend.
I know my old friends care about me, but I need more right now, but I don’t know how to ask for it.
Do you have any suggestions?
– Feeling Down
Dear Feeling Down: I’m publishing your question as a tribute to a friend of mine (we go way back), who recently reached out via group text with an update, followed by a statement saying that she could really use the support of her friends right now.
She immediately received it.
When I spoke with her, I thanked her for giving us the opportunity to pull together. I told her that her transparent “ask” was honoring our very long friendship.
She said that her (very wise) daughter reminded her that asking for help is giving people who care about her an opportunity to be of service.
To anyone out there who is hurting, please understand that asking for help is not only an act of bravery, but it is also an act that honors your relationships.
To anyone out there who is hurting, please understand that asking for help is not only an act of bravery, but it is also an act that honors your relationships, by giving people who care about you a pathway to be helpful, and an opportunity to express their love and compassion.
I hope you can make this “ask.”
Real Life of an MSW 
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Honestly, sometimes when I see your picture, I already have been triggered by the photo that the article post don’t get my attention. When I saw this phone it reminded me of my childhood. We had a yellow rotary phone in the main living room as you enter the house. That same yellow rotary phone plastic cord in the back of it is what momma used on me one day to give me a good ole butt whopping. I shall never forget it and to this day I can’t disrespect a senior. I can’t. Even when I want to and the situated in my opinion warranted it, I can’t! I’m so grateful of my grandmother and the way she brought me up.
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Thank you. I was glad to read that the image allowed you a moment to pause, ponder and reflect. This is one of those pieces of art I wish I would have purchased, as it holds great memories for me as well. Thanks for reading and commenting!
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You’re welcome
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Not only is asking a good thing, but if you DON’T ask, when your friends find out you needed help and didn’t let them know, they will be hurt!
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Well said ! I believe Good friends are good for your health. They can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent isolation and loneliness …
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