Calling in

Posted on April 7, 2025 by msw blog

Calling in” doesn’t mean you avoid calling out injustice when you see it, right?

That’s right. I created a continuum—I call it “The 5 C Continuum.”

There’s calling out, which is publicly shaming people. There’s canceling somebody, which is when you want someone to really suffer, lose their job, lose their platform, or at least take a hit to their reputation. There’s calling in, which is when you use love and respect instead of anger, blaming and shaming to pursue that accountability. 

Then, there’s calling on. Sometimes you don’t want to give people your time and attention. Calling on is what you do when you want people to do better, but you’re not going to invest the time to make them do better. And the fifth C is calling it off. Why are you bothering to waste your precious time with people lying, trolling, cherry picking their facts, and gaslighting you? Whether that’s happening online or in person, you’ve got a choice to disconnect, and I recommend that you do it. – Loretta J. Ross

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Beautiful Failure

Posted on April 6, 2025 by msw blog

There’s a big question that’s crucial to ask: Are you willing to face any feeling in your life? Most people are not willing to face painful feelings. And if you’re not, then fear can have a powerful hold over you. But if you’re willing to face any feelings, then you can be fearless. 

Alongside that, I think it’s important to ask: Are you willing to fail? And are you willing to fail dramatically? I believe a good goal is to be willing to fail, fail dramatically, and not be embarrassed. If you’re truly humble, you could never be embarrassed. – Jim Murphy

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Manifestation

Posted on April 6, 2025 by msw blog

Manifestation is more than just a buzzword — it’s the act of making our visions tangible and real. Our future is shaped by our actions: what we study, practice and master; the energy and people we choose to surround ourselves with every day. Before we can create vision boards or strategic planning documents, we must first take the time to set clear, decisive intentions. Intentions are the foundation of meaningful action. They’re not about achieving status or checking off a list; they’re about aligning with our purpose and moving with clarity, especially when the path forward feels uncertain. In a time when simply existing can feel overwhelming, taking time to reflect on where we are and where we’re headed is a powerful act of self-determination.

Try starting with these journal prompts:How will I align my time, talent and resources — with my stated values? How will I establish healthier coping mechanisms? How will I build stronger relationships with the people I love?

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Washing Dishes

Posted on April 5, 2025 by msw blog

 In The Miracle of Mindfulness, the late spiritual leader and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh wrote: “If while washing dishes, we think only of the cup of tea that awaits us, thus hurrying to get the dishes out of the way as if they were a nuisance, then we are not ‘washing the dishes to wash the dishes.’ … While drinking the cup of tea, we will only be thinking of other things, barely aware of the cup in ourhands.”

Try washing the dishes to wash the dishes — then maybe you will be inspired to drink your tea to drink your tea.

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Remains

Posted on April 5, 2025 by msw blog

 I worked in a mortuary/cemetery and was a licensed funeral director.

Your answer to “Resting Place”, who considered splitting her husband’s deceased wife’s remains among four urns for the children is perfect, emotionally. But, please let that family know they shouldn’t try to split the remains themselves. Cremated remains aren’t like in the movies and odds are if the family tries to split them themselves, they will end up with mom’s ashes all over the table/ground/and or themselves with no way to, respectfully, get them back where they belong. (I’ve heard lots and lots of stories.) If they take the urn to a licensed mortuary or crematory, a professional can handle it for them and spare them that trauma. – Respectful Remains

Dear Remains: It’s amazing the logistical steps that don’t occur until after you’re standing over a table asking your relatives “Well, what now?” Thanks for this very helpful hint.

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