The case against bucket lists


Being my best self and teaching others how to be their best self is on my bucket list of life experiences. I know I am not alone in this. That’s why my first snarky reaction to this piece was “Shit, we’re all dying, act accordingly.”

I like bucket lists. Hell, I even started my own this summer. My list has allowed me to get outdoors and explore. Other times it has allowed me to relax and just be. Though, most importantly, it has motivated me to be my best self and allowed me to help others. At the end of my day, it’s about personal growth.

Rossiter writes “The symbol for the end of life became a symbol of the very container for it, regardless of the amount of time the person may have left on the planet.” I disagree. I think once you obtain your goal, you stop and reflect back on the journey. Real life moment, I am sitting in my secret garden with my glass of wine in my hammock, and damn it, I am impressed with myself. I am living the dream of obtaining a home, being debt free (okay, real life moment, I still have a student loan balance; but who doesn’t besides Jillian?), and working in a profession that at the end of the day allows me to sleep better.

I know I journeyed this path so that I could help those who come behind me navigate it, and show them any and everything is possible. For me (to take just one example), it includes working to end or alleviate homelessness, advocating for legislation that makes my state a better place for families, and fostering an appreciation for life and self by helping young adults find their voice and their worth. This can mean helping them applying for school, teaching impromptu cooking lessons, teaching as many young kids as my time allows how to grow food off the land, or providing individual and group therapy to help them understand self-love and that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This is my personal bucket list: finding my best self, living my best life, and leaving a positive imprint on society. Personal achievements or experiences are all very well, but they die with you. I’m living my best life and showing others how to do the same.


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5 Responses to The case against bucket lists

  1. Jillian loves not having student loan debt!!

    I love your short bucket list. Mine has completely fallen apart. However… I use it more as a list of things I want to remember to do, things that give me pleasure. If I get to them, I get to them. If I don’t, no big deal.


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  2. themrrodge says:

    Your bucket list should be everyone’s. Short and simple.

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