“You know when I cried last? Do you know why I cried last? Do you know how it feels to be alone? Do you know why I sleep late everyday? Do you know how it feels when people bitch? Ever did you wanted to know how I am going through my life? Do you know I had my dinner or not? Do you know with whom I fought last? Do you know how it feels when no one is there beside you? Do you feel the feeling of geting ditched? Have you ever knew how it feels when you love someone and that person doesnt?
Have you ever asked whats going on in my mind?
Do you know when last I was sick?
Do you know how it feels when there is no one to care?
NO.”- The teenage treaty
I came across this great post, and the words echoed a lot of young adults I encounter. They often have heard many myths in regards to therapy. This always gets me a series of “Why aren’t you having me lay down on a sofa?” (My office has two oversized chairs which one can happily curl up in, and a window seat to take in the amazing view), “You don’t look like a therapist?” (I secretly love this question. It’s a great conversation starter and it also reinforces I am staying true to self), “Do you talk?” (I am comfortable in silence, plus I am sure no one pays their therapist to talk and talk and talk- if yours does, I strongly suggest you think about getting a new one.). I also know many are silently thinking many more myths, but unsure how to voice them. That is why I present them with a copy of social worker and therapist Elisabeth Counselman’s list of therapist myths debunked.
Myth #1: My problems aren’t serious enough.— Therapy is designed to help you enhance your well-being—whatever the issues may be. It doesn’t have to be long-term; it can be directed at any obstacle, small or large, that’s affecting your quality of life.
Myth #2: I can just talk to my friends! — Loved ones can provide support, but can’t offer unbiased feedback in an environment that’s solely focused on you. Therapists go through years of training to learn how to listen and help clients problem-solve.
Myth #3: It’s all just a bunch of wallowing. — Therapy is about making it so your issues no longer hold so much power over your thoughts and feelings. It can be a painful and overwhelming process, but your therapist is there to guide you through.
Myth #4: My therapist will judge me. — As therapists, we know it takes strength to ask for help, and our job is to help you examine and solve what’s getting in your way. Judgment doesn’t play a part in that process