Imagine for a second you’re sitting in a café with a good friend, sipping hot beverage’s and chatting about life, love, work and family. Suddenly, the conversation turns to a former acquaintance and our friends relays a story that paints them in an unflattering light. Their comments make you feel awkward, but you nonetheless carry on with the conversation, swamping mean insults bout the person. It’s a common scenario heard in the work place, at home, at the doctors surgery, in the grocery store, on public transport and on evenings out with friends.

Bad mouth others may feel as thought it gives a closer connection between the gossips. In reality, it’s false bond that hurts three people: the ergon you’re seeking about, the person your speaking to and you. It dents personal integrity.