My wife has put on a few pounds, to the extent that it is probably not good for her long-term health. My wife is attractive, takes good care of herself, and has no current health problems, but I am concerned that she’s putting herself at risk for future health problems if she does not take measures now.
After a weight loss program to lose 20 to 30 pounds, she would still not be svelte, but she would be better positioned for good health. She is sensitive to criticism and would probably be angry and take it as a put-down if I simply expressed the sentiments noted above. Do you have any suggestions? – Worried Husband
Reading the query above, I found myself disagreeing with Ask Amy, which is a rare occurrence. I didn’t find the husband to be ashamed of his wife’s weight, but truly concerned about her health. My advice for this husband would be to get more involved- perhaps find an activity that will slowly change their lifestyle; walking the neighborhood, venturing to the farmers market and grocery store, and learn to cook together. They could also implement the “Say Yes Challenge.” Ashley is doing this challenge and she says, “For the newbies here, I am doing an experiment with my husband. When he asks me to do something, I say yes and do it with a smile – that’s the plan anyway. The goal is to be more agreeable, find more things we have in common, and spend more time together.” In the case of this couple, I would take it a step farther and request that each of them complete a list of activities they want the other to try. Integrating these positive tasks into a relationship is bound to have positive changes. What advice would you offer this husband?