These questions make for enriching dinner table conversation, but they can be equally illuminating if you simply ask them of yourself. I stumbled onto the idea of asking big questions because I needed them myself. They drive our growth, and we can come back to them year after year.

1. How do you draw strength from loved ones?
2. What boundaries could you set in your relationships to safeguard your own wellbeing?
3. What do you value most in your relationships, with romantic partners, friends or family?
4. What five traits do you value most in potential partners?
5. What are three important lessons have you learned from previous relationships?
6. What are three things that are working well in your current relationship?
7. What are three things that could be better in your current relationship?