“I’ve been living in service of certain ideas—the status quo—trying to explain myself constantly and create a palatable narrative of what I am. And I don’t want to do that.” – Greta Lee
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
Kind words I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had the right words; just know I care. I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help in any way that I can. And some of the worst things to say: He/she is in a better place. There is a reason for everything. (I hate that one!!) It’s been a few years; you should move on with your life. (That is the most hurtful of all, because there is not a set time of grief.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something
How can you change your relationship with shopping if you’re constantly overspending? It takes a lot of inner work, mindfulness, and reflection on how you feel while you’re shopping to identify the reason you’re shopping to begin with. It often goes a lot deeper than, “Oh, I like that.” Or, “I saw that on some influencer, and I like it.” It could be boredom shopping or stress shopping. Take a step back, slow down, and figure out why you want to spend that money. What’s your best advice for avoiding impulse buys? Create a wish list. This is a really practical and helpful way of creating some distance from the initial wanting of the item and the buying of it. I keep a running list of potential buys in the Notes app on my phone. I give myself a minimum of 24 hours to sleep on it and allow myself to forget about it. Nine times out of 10, I forget about it.
As a caregiver to a loved one with a terminal illness, I wish to add two recommendations on how people should NOT respond to this news:
First, do not minimize the illness!
Second, do not intrude on others’ privacy (“I heard he’s sick, with what? What’s the prognosis, and how’s he handling it?”).
Dear From the Trenches: Caregiving at this level is a relentless process of learning while doing. Thank you for passing your wisdom along.
