Joy is exactly what’s happening, minus our opinion of it. Well, that is how I have quoted it for years. The full quote is this: Until we know that joy is exactly what’s happening, minus our opinion of it, we’re going to have only a small amount of joy.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
Anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows that money can cause stress and dissonance in even the most loving partnerships. And one of the biggest financial concerns that can cause strife? Debt.
While getting on the same page with your beloved may take some work, it will ultimately be better for your relationship, your peace of mind and your bottom line. Here’s what you and your partner can do to ease some of your debt anxiety.
Understand the ramifications: If you learn that your partner has a significant amount of debt, it’s a good idea to talk about how that debt will affect their life … and yours. This makes the debt feel real rather than some far-off, intangible thing that can be dealt with down the line.
Come up with a plan of action: It’s important to discuss both of your expectations around the debt. Do you both consider it their debt and their financial responsibility? Or does your partner expect you to help pay it off? Do you have a significantly higher salary and are willing to contribute
Don’t worry about your collection of unread books. The magic of reading lies in their patience to wait for just the right moment to reveal the hidden treasures within. – Jamie E Davis
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
RANT to the northern lights for only showing up at night when most of us are asleep. It would be much more convenient if they showed up in the middle of the day.
RANT to people who either ignore or can’t read my “No Solicitors” sign on my door. I had one person who even said he read my sign but my house looked like it needed work! I’m on a fixed income. My house does need work but I cannot afford it, especially here in Seattle. And those who work for a cause important to them, those causes may also be important to me but I do what I can when I can and do not want my home interrupted by solicitors who ignore my sign. Please don’t knock on my door!
RANT AND RAVE Rave to all the candidates and initiatives that promptly removed their campaign signs. Rant to those who have not. Let’s get on it!
RANT to postal delivery drivers who do not put the outgoing red lever back down after collecting the outgoing mail.
RANT to those who think it’s fine to leave stuff on the curb — everything from furniture, mattresses, kitchen stuff — here in Seattle this is illegal dumping! If your stuff is usable, there are many organizations such as The Salvation Army that will pick up donations to help people in need. If it is broken and unfit for reuse, take it to the transfer station or call a local junk-removal company to get rid of it. Your neighbors don’t appreciate junk left on the parking strip.
RANT to my neighbors with stunning decks overlooking Lake Washington who never use them. Every day I walk my dog past these beautiful homes and see zero people outside enjoying the view — morning or evening, even during summer. Meanwhile, I live in a basement apartment with no deck and no view. It’s frustrating to see such a wonderful opportunity for relaxation and appreciation go to waste. Please, step outside and enjoy the beauty you have right in front of you!
RANT to people who choose a window seat, then refuse to push up the shade for the entire cross-country ride. Why?
RANT to ignorant, self-centered people who refuse to recognize the therapeutic value of service animals.
RANT to the people driving by who gave me the finger as I held up a sign that said “Hope not Hate.” Do you not see the irony?
RANT to farmers market shoppers who need to show more respect to hardworking farmers and other shoppers. Leave your Randomdoodle home from the crowded area where someone might trip and fall over Fido, or at least use a very small leash. And tall Fido’s nose doesn’t need to be sniffing the homemade tarts. Try not to dig and pick through the fruits and veggies at the bottom of the box too long looking for the perfect specimen while a long line waits to pay. And please, please don’t stand there picking off cherry stems and tossing them back into the bin. Our markets are urban gems. Let’s treat them accordingly.
For the past 15 years, since our grandparents died, my mom and her sister have hosted all holidays, alternating years. For about the past five years, they have complained relentlessly about how they “do all the work,” and wonder aloud when the younger generation will step up.
I, along with my two siblings and two cousins, would love to host. Like a lot of millennials, none of us owns a home. Two of us have decent enough apartments. All of us can cook.
So this year, we suggested we might team up to co-host at one of the decent apartments, but pointed out that the holiday would be different from the ones we have traditionally done — smaller, different menus that better accommodate *our* eating preferences, possibly some outside friends invited, etc.
Surprising no one, Mom and Auntie both immediately balked and rejected all our proposed modifications. It’s looking like another year where they host and complain about doing so.
How do we stage a not-so-hostile takeover? We would really love to just do it despite their objections but aren’t sure how to get started.
why didn’t you just use it?:
1. “You’re right, it is our turn. How ’bout this year, we co-host, and you teach us everything?” No appeasement motions, no “our eating preferences,” yes oral history.
2. After doing this and reading their reactions to it, ask if they’re ready to gather at your homes next year. If not, then offer to host them fully at theirs. (Repeat as needed.)
3. Prepare their foods still, adding some dishes your way. Subtracting … in good time. Toward eventual takeover.
Because if they aren’t just martyr-muttering in the kitchen with no intention of handing over the reins, then they will welcome a seamless transition, surprising no one.
A coup works, too, just different consequences. Up to you.
But if the “not-so-hostile” matters, then learn about those threads you’re picking up before you change the weave; after all, I doubt the sisters cook precisely what your grandparents did. People balk at being pushed out, understandably, but drawing them out is a sign of care and respect
