Writing

Writing is also a freeing activity. Dr. Gathers suggests jotting down one-word adjectives about how you feel, to start. “You can simply write: Sad. Confused. Hurt. Write it down in a list and then just leave it.” The next day, come back to it and expand those words to sentences or short paragraphs. Dr. Seku Gathers

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Get Moving

Exercise is one of the most critical things we can do to heal. As Dr. Gathers tells me, “No one has ever come back from a workout and thought, I’m so upset that I did that. That was the worst thing ever.” Moving your body, even for a 10-minute walk, is empowering and clarifying.

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Grace of God

So last Sunday, I celebrated the absolutely astonishing miracle that I, specifically, was even born. As Fredrick Buechner wrote, “The grace of God means something like, ‘Here is your life. You might never have been, but you are because the party wouldn’t have been complete without you.’” I celebrated that I have shelter and friends and warm socks and feet to put in them, and that God or Gus found a way to turn the madness and shame of my addiction into grace. I shook my head with wonder, which I do more and more as I age, at all the beauty that is left and all that still works after so much has been taken away.

So, celebrate with me. Step outside and let your mouth drop open. Feed the poor with me, locally or, if you want to buy me something, make a donation to UNICEF.

My party will not be the same without you.- Annie Lamont

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Hello

In South Africa, where I come from, ‘sawubona’ is the Zulu word for ‘hello,'” says David. “There’s a beautiful and powerful intention behind the word because ‘sawubona’ literally translated means, ‘I see you, and by seeing you, I bring you into being.’ So beautiful, imagine being greeted like that. But what does it take in the way we see ourselves? Our thoughts, our emotions and our stories that help us to thrive in an increasingly complex and fraught world?

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Ethics of Self-Preservation

I am in a senior position with a marketing agency that is in bad shape. Employees are on reduced hours and pay because our work has slowed substantially. The owners pledged to get new work but have not made any moves in that direction. I’m looking for a new job, and I’ve seen some very appealing openings with current clients. I’d be a great candidate, because I know many of the players, and they know and like my work. We don’t have a noncompete, but I am worried I would further harm my employer if I applied for a job with its clients. Will the clients take it as a red flag? Will I accelerate the demise of my current company if I jump ship to a client? — Anonymous

You will not harm your employer by taking a new job with one of its clients. You are not responsible for your employer’s demise. If the roles were reversed, it would not offer you a fraction of the consideration you are offering. It is a job, and maybe you love it, but as I have said many times before, it will not and cannot love you back. If there are no noncompete issues (which may not matter anyway, as the Federal Trade Commission banned noncompetes last week), by all means, take a job with a client. If the client asks why you’re leaving your agency, you’re welcome to offer a diplomatic answer — or you can tell the truth. This is not an ethical quandary. It would be unethical only if, for example, you took a position with a client and then shared proprietary information about your former employer or its other clients.

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