Impossible Questions

Would you please help me consider a useful, if not beneficial, response to an interview question that goes something like this: “We at (organization name) are committed to diversity, equity and inclusion. Would you tell us how you are prepared to work effectively with colleagues and external stakeholders from backgrounds that are different from your own, and to contribute to our commitment to D.E.I.? Feel free to think broadly about your response, applying various aspects of your life and personal experiences.”

I was asked this question by a panel consisting of three white women and one white man in senior positions, my age (50s) or or younger (30s to 40s), no visible disabilities. I am and appear Latina (Spanish name, dark hair, brown skin). I am not comfortable disclosing personal information (such as a non-visible disability, background as an immigrant, queer identity, etc.). I commended their commitment to D.E.I., not least because of the range of expertise and complementary skills it brings together. But then I went on to note that, as the only person of color in the room and having successfully lived, studied, and worked for decades in predominantly white institutions, I am well prepared to work with and among people whose backgrounds differ from my own. This did not go over well. I really need a new job. I would appreciate your thoughts on perhaps a more politic response.— Anonymous

I, like many others, have encountered versions of this I, like many others, have encountered versions of this question for at least 15 years. I always want to submit a two-word response, “I’m Black,” though I refrain because I assume it won’t go over well, as you discovered. When you’re marginalized or underrepresented, you’re always working with and living among people with backgrounds different from your own. The expectation that you need to articulate how your reality has prepared you to contribute to an organization’s diversity, equity and inclusion efforts can be frustrating. It is rare that companies are asking this question sincerely, but they do want you to answer sincerely or, at least, tell them what they want to hear. For now, let’s assume questions like this are being asked in good faith. There are many resources online that offer guidance on how to answer diversity-related questions. The indeed.com “Career Guide,” for example, offers sample questions and answers. Do some research about different ways to answer this question, and think through how you can answer them using your own voice and perspective.

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Supportive Housing

My young adult son with a severe mental illness cycled through homeless episodes before he died, so I read with frustration the article “A landmark case changed how cities deal with homeless encampments” [Oct. 15, A1].

Western cities are stuck in crisis management, not cause analysis or long-term solution building. To fix this issue, we need a compassionate and fully functional treatment system for people with severe mental illness, and we need governments to stop not-in-my-backyard neighborhoods from blocking development of treatment facilities and affordable, supportive housing.

I know many families whose loved ones become homeless because treatment access requires violence. Please trust me that no family or landlord can do what professionals struggle to do when a person is persistently psychotic and too sick to recognize that they have a mental illness. I’m working with several families now with loved ones about to become homeless because of unsafe psychotic behaviors in their home and a mental health system that won’t move them into care until someone gets hurt.

They will join the homeless multitudes bumped from one encampment to another, unwell, disturbing public safety, and heading toward early death. 

Jerri Clark, Vancouver, founder of Mothers of the Mentally Ill

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Deep Roots

The choice is not made in theory, for to grow deep roots requires action, courage, love commitment. The daily alarm that goes off too early reminds us of greater goals than sleep. Showing up and showing compassion especially when it’s inconvenient. Tethering ourselves only to whom and what we truly stand for. Roots grow through bold confrontation when dreams for something lasting becomes reality.

Obedience, one might say, to be a better nature.

Radical change is not made overnight but in thousands of choices pointed in the same direction. These choices push us further until one day we find we are strong. We are immovable. And when we look at the horizon and see the next storm moving in, we need not find shelter. Nothing can displace us with the strength of these roots. – Craig Cunnigham 

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Say No Out of Love, Not Yes Out of Fear

The gifts you buy are not why you are loved. I know deep down you know that, but you get caught up in other emotions that make you feel as if you are denying loved ones if you don’t give them a gift you purchase. You say yes to overspending from a fear of not letting down the people you love most. But do you really think they will be disappointed and judge you in a negative way if you don’t spend money on gifts?

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Get Creative

There are so many gifts that don’t cost a lot of money. Watching the kids. Committing to a weekly phone-free walk, or gabfest with friends. Baking something delicious. Or get your craft on. There are so many small projects you can dive into now to create a thoughtful gift that is budget-friendly. Got young kids? Involve them. Those are the gifts that will be treasured most.

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