Reading the article the Secret Lives of Therapists, I found myself writing in the margins and highlighting things. What first made me pause was the following “What are you like outside the office? Here are some things we can’t do in public: cry to a friend, argue with a spouse, impatiently press an elevator button like it’s a morphine pump, honk at a driver (who could be a patient) blocking the entrance to the parking garage.” I found myself rolling my eyes and disagreeing. I think it’s okay if a client sees you exhibiting any of these as it shows them you are human. It is also an opportunity, if they bring it up in session, to discuss how you cope with these issues. The second one was “why do therapists say so little?” I must agree with the author on this. Just because a therapist isn’t talking doesn’t mean we aren’t working. We’re focusing very intently, listening, and processing. This requires a lot of energy, which is why I try not to schedule back to back sessions. I take a break in between sessions to jot down notes, refuel, stretch, mediate, or debrief with colleagues.