Call Your Waiting What It Is You can’t change what you keep spiritualizing or intellectualizing. Waiting often hides behind language like patience, strategy, faith, and timing. But avoidance thrives in ambiguity, so the moment you name it, you interrupt its power. Ask yourself: What am I postponing? What am I afraid will happen if I act? What am I protecting by staying quiet?
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
For a fun date night, get tickets to a holiday play, musical, or ballet. While you’re at it, purchase additional tickets to gift to friends and family.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
RAVE to the radio stations that don’t play Christmas music until after Thanksgiving. It is great listening to music that does not add to the “noise” of the very early/dominating commercialism of Christmas. It feels like a big loss when Halloween in October and Christmas in December so overshadow the beautiful and meaningful Thanksgiving in November. Perhaps we could all benefit from taking time for reflection, counting our blessings and pausing to enjoy and appreciate this special holiday as we do the others.
RAVE to the person who found my purse in a grocery cart at Costco and turned it in. I am forever grateful for your honesty.
RAVE to the truly outstanding displays of vivid autumn colors in Seattle and nearby suburbs this year. Private and public property owners made great choices years ago by selecting trees that show off big time before the leaves fall.
RAVE to the young man from Kirkland for helping us, an elderly couple, change our flat tire the other night. I had just started loosening the nuts holding the flat tire to the wheel when he happened to walk by. He immediately offered to help and took over the tedious task of changing the tire in the poor light made by only a smartphone flashlight. Thanks to his wonderful help, we were on our way much sooner.
RAVE to drivers who change lanes or merge into traffic smoothly, without making the right-of-way vehicles slow down at all. Nice job! (I’ll bet you are a great dancer.)
RAVE to the wonderful woman who helped me get up after a fall. She walked me home with my dog. Then she came by a few days later to see if I was OK.
RAVE to the taxi driver whose ride from Seattle-Tacoma International Airport to Colman Dock was an act of compassion. I had just flown home from my mother-in-law’s passing and discovered the light rail was delayed. In the taxi waiting area, I was drawn to an older gentleman standing next to his cab. When he asked if I needed service, I blurted out that my last taxi trip was traumatic; the driver was speeding and refused to slow down. “You will always be respected in my cab,” my new friend said, and we talked about love and loss as he delivered me safely downtown.
When a loved one behaves in a way that bothers you, should you take a step back from the relationship or lean into it? Therapist KC Davis has shared some practical advice with Life Kit about how to move forward when these relationships become difficult. Davis has a few guiding questions to help you make the best decision for your situation.
🤝 Why is this behavior objectionable to you? This question can help you pinpoint the issue and decide how to move forward. It can help you determine if the behavior is something you don’t like or if it is hurtful.
🤝 Are they willing to change? You can have a conversation with the person about the problem and work on a solution together.
🤝 Does staying in this relationship violate my values? If a relationship threatens your physical and psychological safety, as well as the safety of minor children, it is against your values to continue engaging with that person.
Linden Hills by Gloria Naylor (1985, 304 pages) Linden Hills, like Bailey’s Café, is yet another complex book that I would not put in the “easy-to-read” category. I read this book over 20 years ago. I never forgot how wonderful, haunting, vivid, and compelling the story was. Naylor began Linden Hills while at Yale as a part of her thesis. It is a very clever reworking of Dante’s Inferno, revealing the dark empty heart of a Black community striving for status under white capitalism. Naylor’s skillful story development allows the reader to explore rich themes around race, class, sexuality, and more while getting lost in the unfolding narratives. Willie, the main character and narrator, along with his best friend Lester, takes us on a journey through the community of Linden Hills the week of Christmas, and its interesting neighbors. They introduce us to people like Luther Needed (all 3 of them), Willa Prescott-Needed, Rev. Michael T. Hollis, and Laurel Dumont to name a few. What the story reveals is greed, the need for power and more power, and the hierarchy of what they believed life to truly be. Some parts of the book can be confusing. Naylor switches scenes-and typeface to allow the reader to understand the historical roots of this story. The book is also filled with plenty of poetry but it’s interesting enough to keep you reading until the end. Naylor beautifully fuses together various parts of narratively disjointed fiction into one integrated whole, she also, through language, fuses “memory” to a present reality to create an integrated page turner.
Real Life of an MSW 