Think of being emotional as a strength, not a weakness…I used to be told I was too emotional all the time, and I felt shame and brokenness when people pointed it out. With time, I came to understand that this sensitivity made me a better therapist, friend, sister daughter, and partner. Many people are uncomfortable with other’s emotions because they don’t know how to deal with their own. Let their opinion be a representation of them and stay true to showing up as authentically as possible. – Sara Kuburic
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Are you cleaning the things around your house frequently enough? Test your knowledge below. And remember, these are generalities. If you live with pets, kids or other especially messy folks, you’ll probably want to intensify your cleaning game. Same goes if you have immunocompromised people living with you or visiting.
1. How often should you clean the microwave?
a) After each use
b) Once a week
c) Once a month
2. The oven?
a) Once a week
b) Once a month
c) Once a year
3. The dishwasher?
a) Once a month
b) Once a year
c) Never
4. The washing machine?
a) Once a month
b) Once a year
c) Never
1. b) You should wipe down the inside of your microwave weekly, says Whiteley, “not because of the microbiological danger, but because of the smell.” Unless you always cover the foods you heat up, some of them will end up on the appliance, and they’ll continue to cook every time you turn it on, leading to unappetizing aromas. If you’ve neglected your microwave to the point that its interior looks like a tie-dye T-shirt, Hensley has some advice: Put some water in a dish and microwave it on full power for three minutes, then leave the door closed for five more minutes. The resulting steam will loosen the residue, making it easier to clean off.
2. c) The average family should clean their oven at least once a year, possibly twice a year, says Hensley. (If you cook every single meal in the oven, you might want to up it to four to five times.) Regularly cleaning the oven prevents smells and reduces fire risk.
3. a) You might assume that, because this device cleans other items, it is always clean. But you’d be wrong. If you’re using your dishwasher regularly, you should at least check monthly whether old food and grime has collected in its crevices.
Sarah Vance recommends running a paper towel along the inside of the rim to see if anything has built up, though you may not like what you uncover: She says she was “shocked, appalled and disgusted” by what she found. Now, she just runs the machine once a month without anything in it to keep it pristin
4. a) It’s especially important to clean your washer once a month if you have a front-loading machine, says Michael Mattingly, executive director of product management for clothes care at GE Appliances. He also recommends leaving the door and detergent dispenser open after each cycle to allow them to dry.
He suggests checking the rubber seal on the door for buildup, which you can wipe out with a rag, especially if you have long hair or pets. You will also want to remove the dispenser drawer and clean it with hot water in the sink.
Maybe you projected your kindness and good heartedness onto other people in the past. thinking that just because you’re an honest and forthright person, other people think and operate just like you. You end up in many situations where you feel your kindness ends up getting taken advantage of. This is an example of self-betrayal. Reclaim your power by enforcing boundaries, trusting and believing what people show you with their actions, not just their words, and take the lesson as an opportunity to not abandon your own needs in the future while also celebrating your goodness.
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Treat your feelings as messengers…everybody notices that wherever there’s trouble, there’s always a bunch of emotions hanging around. But the feelings didn’t create the trouble – They were trying to tell you something. Anger, for instance, arises whenever a boundary has been crossed, either physical or behavioral. It reveals what we value. You can’t get angry about something that’s not important to you right? Anger can give you the strength to set some boundaries. Sadness can show you that it’s time to let go of a situation that isn’t working. Anxiety can help you propel yourself forward and gather the energy you need to get things done. When we repress our emotions, we miss out on their valuable messages. Ask yourself what message your emotions might be trying to communicate. – Karla McLaren
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What if I can’t afford it? Even if your therapist doesn’t take insurance your plan may reimburse a portion of the fee, and some therapists will negotiate lower rates if you pay out of pocket. Alternatively, your company’s employee assistance program may provide free short-term therapy. You can also look into the university psychology departments, some offer sessions with therapists in training. Or check out the none profit Open Path Psychotherapy Collective, which connects patients in need with therapist who accept discounted rates (to sign up, there’s a onetime fee of $65)
Can I see my friend’s therapist? Ideally no. Many therapists won’t treat two pepe who know each other because it could compromise their objectivity. Also, you and your friend may be tempted to compare notes. A therapist may have a reason for developing different treatment plans for different people. Your friend’s therapist can, however, refer you to a colleague.
What if we don’t click? You should have a comfortable and respectful rapport with your therapist. If your gut says this person isn’t for you, you can tell them that and see if you two can resolve concerns. But it’s also okay to move on. Therapists have different styles, and if say, tough love isn’t your jam, you can try again. It may feel like a bummer to have to start your story over, you’re playing the long game so it’s worth the redo.
