Do Not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
What day is it? Asked Pooh! “It’s today,” squeaked piglet. “My favorite Day,” said Pooh—A.A.Milne
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
Even with the best intentions, someone might push. They might ask the question you said you wouldn’t answer. They might make the comment that crosses the line.
Here are some responses that hold your boundary without burning the house down:
“I appreciate your concern, but I’m not discussing that today.” “That’s personal, and I’m keeping it that way.” “I hear you, and I’ve got it handled.” “Let’s talk about something else.”
You can say these with warmth. You can say them with a smile. But you can also say them firmly. You don’t have to make yourself smaller to keep the peace. Real peace includes you being respected.
It’s not our abilities that show what we truly are…it is our choices. – Harry Potter
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
The holidays can actually be a beautiful time to start conversations about wellness, but only if we do it with care. Black women carry so much. We’re managing chronic conditions, navigating healthcare systems that don’t always see us, trying to prioritize ourselves in a world that tells us to keep giving until we’re empty.
If you want to open up a conversation about health, start with your own experience.
“I’ve been learning about bone health and how important strength training is as we get older. It’s been interesting.”
“I just realized I have been ordering new glasses online and not getting my eyes checked, I just made an appointment”
“I’ve been trying to move my body more, not to look different, just to feel stronger.”
This approach does two things: it shares information without preaching, and it invites people to join the conversation without forcing it. Someone might say, “Oh, I’ve been thinking about that too” or “Tell me more about that.” Or they might not. Both are fine.
What not to do: Don’t comment on anyone’s body, their plate, or their health choices. Don’t use the gathering as a moment to express concern about someone’s weight, their eating, or their appearance. Don’t say things like “You’ve really put on weight” or “You’re looking thin, are you eating?” or “Should you be eating that?”
Even if it comes from love, it doesn’t land that way. It lands as judgment. It lands as surveillance. And for Black women especially, who already deal with the world policing our bodies, we need our family tables to be places of refuge, not more scrutiny.
Real Life of an MSW 