Every holiday, we have a large family dinner of 25 to 30 people. Mostly everyone brings a dish.
When we clear the table, a few of the guests try to beat everyone else into the kitchen and pack up a lot of the leftovers to take home. They don’t even leave any for the hosts!
I think this is incredibly rude and would like to say something to them, but the hosts, even though they are annoyed with this, don’t want anything said because they don’t want hard feelings.
What is the best way to handle this? They have been included in the holiday dinners for more than 20 years, so it would be very awkward to disinvite them.
Anonymous: It does sound rude, yes.
We’re talking about leftovers, though — so the rudeness is costing you, what, a couple of warmed-over lunches? And the hosts don’t want you to say anything because wanting people to feel welcome is their higher priority.




