“When do you feel most calm and grounded these days?”
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While my son and daughter-in-law are raising their children quite differently than how I parented, I feel they are loving and caring, and I have expressed my support to them. However, there is one behavior that I really struggle with. The children, 5 and 8, interrupt conversations between adults with their own questions or wishes (“Look at my Barbie,” “I want potato chips”) and the parents always drop the adult conversations and engage with the child, to the extent of leaving the room with the child and leaving the adult (me) sitting, waiting to see if or when we’ll return to our chat.
I feel disrespected and as if the exchange was not important. I have tried to redirect the children myself, saying, “Yes, I’d love to color with you. I am talking to your mom right now, but I will come to you in five minutes. “
This goes nowhere and does not curb the interruptions. The parents don’t back my efforts. It seems to me that they believe the child’s “need” always takes priority, whereas I view teaching a child to wait patiently and take turns is an important social skill. Help. How can I make peace with this situation? – Grandma on Hold
Dear Grandma: Though this practice wouldn’t be your choice and sets a precedent with the kids that could lead to entitled pre-teens, try to remove your feeling of being disrespected from the equation. Your son and daughter-in-law are managing hundreds of large and small decisions as they try to parent in a way that’s responsible and responsive to their children.
While it’s your opinion that adult conversations ought not take a backseat to the needs and wants of the child, when they choose a different tactic, they’re not doing it because conversations with Grandma aren’t important, but rather because, in their view, every conversation has equal weight.
In short, just let them. It can feel, sometimes, like these differences in parenting styles are subtle (or not-so-subtle) referendums on the choices you made in parenting. Try to see it more expansively. They’re parenting in a different world and in a different context. But you raised your son in a way that empowers him to make decisions, even decisions that, in your view, aren’t the best.
If you’re a college freshman, congratulations! You’re now likely financially responsible for yourself.How do you make smart financial decisions so you have enough money to spend at school — and don’t graduate with more debt than you need?
💰The general rule of thumb for student loans is that your total debt when you graduate should not be more than your expected annual salary at your first job out of school.
💰 Opening up about money with your new college friends can make you feel less alone or ashamed about your situation — and even generate creative financial solutions.
💰Before opening a credit card, shop around for the best interest rates and rewards. Try not to put things on your card that you can’t pay off in full by the due date.
💰 Create a written roommate agreement outlining financial obligations for shared costs.
💰 Apply to scholarships, even once you’re in college.
💰 If you can, start making payments toward the interest on your loans while you’re still in school.
💰 Consider getting a job near campus.
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It can feel uncomfortable when someone compliments your style, work or skills. Should you negate or downplay the praise? Say a kind remark in return? Change the subject all together?
Compliments can be lovely in theory but hard to accept, especially for those who struggle with low self-esteem, says behavioral scientist Xuan Zhao. They may feel like they don’t deserve the praise because it doesn’t match their self-image.
But even if it feels hard, there are good reasons to accept a compliment. Research has shown that it lights up your brain’s reward center and makes you feel happier. – Life Kit
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Meryl Streep once said: “One day you wake up and realize that your youth is gone, but along with it, so go insecurity, haste, and the need to please. . . . You learn to walk more slowly, but with greater certainty. You say goodbye without fear, and you cherish those who stay. Aging means letting go, it means accepting, it means discovering that beauty was never in our skin . . . but in the story we carry inside us.”
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
Real Life of an MSW 