Find the Upside: There’s always a takeaway, a moment of gratitude or a lesson in every spilled glass of water or missed appointment.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
It’s not enough to wish for a solid relationship; you have to intentionally create it…here’s to learning , growing and being better…
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something
A recent question from “Not So Empty Nest Mom” sought solutions on how to deal with her two adult daughters’ stuff, which was currently filling the family garage after the daughters had left home.
I asked readers to offer their own solutions, and this column is devoted to these suggestions.
-I have two sons. Getting them to retrieve their treasures was a challenge. They were simply not interested. My solution … I have been giving them their own “treasures” for Christmas gifts and birthday gifts!
-We went through all of our kids’ stuff by ourselves and made a (small) stack of what we wanted to keep, a stack of what we thought they’d want to keep, a pile of likely to donate, and a pile of trash. Our kids came home to go through each pile. They took what they wanted to keep (and their father jokingly offered to contact the Smithsonian to see what treasures to donate to the museum).
I have three daughters and I was storing many items for them. For a few months, I would take out a couple of things each day, photograph them and text the photo to the owner, asking what they wanted done with it. Most of these items went to the charity pickup van. The few remaining items they wanted were boxed and given or mailed to them. I’m now down to just a few boxes of their stuff.
-“Not So Empty Nest Mom” should see if her community has a local “Buy Nothing” group. If so, she can list items on the group’s social media page and members can claim things for “porch pickup” – which is to say, people will come and take your stuff! – Buying Less, Sharing More
– Here’s one thing we did to “help” our sons take possession of their things: They live locally and visit regularly so, in addition to leaving the house with leftovers and their mother’s fresh-baked goods, they would also return home with a box of their stuff from the basement. Eventually, we held a final “love it or leave it day” and whatever didn’t go home with them hit the trash or the Salvation Army store.
Many readers suggested offloading their kids’ stuff into storage units. This is a logical and good solution for freeing up space in their own garage, but it really just transfers the original problem to another location.
When my Indian father immigrated to the United States in 1976, his first dream was to own a pair of bluejeans. Ever since watching Michael Wadleigh’s 1970 documentary, “Woodstock” in a Mumbai movie house, my father adored denim and Jimi Hendrix. Selling fake IDs in Times Square for $3 an hour, he cobbled together enough money to buy bluejeans. He wore them with pride, setting aside money for rent and food and, of course, more denim. After I was born, he bought me my first petite pair. I now wear bluejeans every day in my father’s honor. — Raj Tawney
major signs of menopause brain fog: Lack of Focus: Zoning out? You guessed it, estrogen may be to blame! It’s essential for keeping our neural connections in check, helping our brain cells chat, and supporting cognitive superpowers like attention and focus. It’s hard to stay on track and concentrate on tasks. We get distracted easily, and our efficiency suffers. Memory Loss and Forgetfulness: Car keys? What car keys? Declining estrogen messes with your memory consolidation, leaving us searching for lost things. Menopause can also cause memory lapses, making us forget stuff. Drop In Energy Levels: Oh, the fatigue! Hormonal swings leave us feeling drained, zapping our motivation and energy. Irritability: You’re happy one minute and then suddenly upset the next. The smallest things can set you off, and you’re easily annoyed. Tanked Productivity: Brain fog + lack of focus + low energy = not the best recipe for productivity. Handling tasks can become a real struggle.
