A place that inspires me is…my car on a long drive. I recently drove from Pennsylvania to Ohio and was constantly stimulated by the landscape and the people on the road with me. It was like exploring bt with a destination.
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My 87-year-old mother and 93-year-old father are sharing a hospital room, as he nears the end of his life.
My oldest sister (the only child living nearby) deals with everything.
During our most recent text exchange, my sister first told me how dire dad’s health is, and then insisted that he can recover.
Having been through something similar with my late husband, I know he will not. I suggested that she talk to someone about what dad will likely experience during palliative care, and that my mother might benefit from talking to a hospital chaplain about deciding between hospice or continuing with treatment.
I also said I will support my sister regardless of what path is chosen for his care, that I know how hard a decision like this can be, but that sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to let a person go.
My sister snapped back that a priest had prayed healing prayers over both parents that day.
Praying over someone is not the same as sitting down and conversing, and my father is not going to “heal.”
I thanked her for letting me know and ended our conversation.
Do you think my best option is to simply thank her for any updates, and keep my mouth shut about everything else?
I want to help her through this.
Dear Upset: You’ve been through this with your husband’s death. Now imagine managing two parents’ end-of-life care. That’s what your sister is dealing with.
I suggest that the “healing prayers” may actually be for her benefit – and I hope they help.
You have the right to share your thoughts, but she is at their bedside. Ask her how you can be most helpful. If possible, you should travel to be with them in order to support all of them.
After my father died, I flew to New York to spend a week getting his home in order. Each day, I filled boxes with his books, my heart emptying with each shelf. Each night, I cried myself to sleep in his bed. I felt caught between my desire to return home and my desire to stay there, with him. I arrived back at the Detroit airport in a fragile state, knowing my husband would be at work; my grief and I would have to cab home. But then my phone dinged with my husband’s message: “Be there at 5.” — Debbie Feit
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Improvised, crazed by the music… Even my teeth and eyes burned with fever. Each time I leaped I seemed to touch the sky and when I regained earth it seemed to be mine alone. – Josephine Baker
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I love the op-ed section of the paper. I believe we all need to write at least one letter on something we’re passionate about in our lifetime. In saying that, I applaud this reader
Seattle spent $770,000 on attorney fees defending Jenny Durkan (former mayor) over the deletion of her text messages during her “Summer of Love” when people were protesting and rioting in Seattle. (“Seattle to settle whistleblower suit over texts,” May 2, Local.)
Now a settlement with undisclosed terms has been reached with the whistleblowers over the deletion of texts, another cost to the taxpayer. These two individuals lost their jobs because they refused to go along with how Durkan’s office handled the request from news reporters on the deleted texts.
When a politician does something against the law, they should be held accountable and pay the settlement and attorney fees. The taxpayers should not be held accountable to pay. The taxpayers should not be footing the bill for her hiding/deleting the history of actions taken by her. There is no personal accountability for illegal actions taken by public servants. Wrongful actions should be outside of the bounds of government (tax payers) protection.
Larry Brickman, Bellevue
