Best Husband Ever

Posted on April 30, 2023 by msw blog

My husband and I are both teachers. On our 10th anniversary, I suggested that we review our vows and give grades for how well we had achieved our commitments. Going line by line, we gave our ratings on vows like, “I promise to share life’s joys and to comfort you in its sorrows,” and “I promise to listen to you when I do not understand; and to trust you when I am in doubt.” David kept giving out As and A+s. “Wow,” I said, “do you really think I rated that high?” David replied, “I thought I was grading myself!” — Camille Napier Bernstein

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Things You Should Never Do While Touring Apartments

Posted on April 30, 2023 by msw blog

Don’t… come without questions 

It’s easy to be dazzled by a walk-in closet or top-notch appliances when you’re touring an apartment. But don’t forget to write down questions to ask the leasing agent while on the tour, says Melissa Zavala, a broker at Broadpoint Properties, a real estate brokerage and property management firm in North San Diego County. Here are some sample questions that she suggests asking:

  • Are pets allowed? If so, are there weight restrictions? Is an additional deposit or monthly fee required?
  • How much is the security deposit? What other fees should I know about?
  • Who pays the utilities? 
  • How do you qualify applicants? 

Also, don’t stop at touring the unit alone. Ask to see any communal areas, whether that’s a rooftop, gym, pool, or game room.

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Tension Between Adult Children and Their Parents

Posted on April 29, 2023 by msw blog

I’m a grown millennial. My parents are aging. Unfortunately, I don’t have much in common with them. I live nearby and they want me to visit them every week. They’re disorganized and I like to be organized. They don’t plan for the future, and live day by day. They are always in debt, while I am frugal. The list goes on and on. We have different hobbies and religions, too. It’s tough. They are over 70 and I’m dreading the caregiving years.I can’t be the only person in this situation. How should grown children deal with parents with whom they have little in common?

– Anonymous

Reading this this Jonnie Mitchell lyrics popped into my head “You don’t know what you got until it’s gone” Secondly, I agree with Amy advice, “It is vital that you take good care of yourself. This includes establishing boundaries, understanding that you will not be able to control or change them, and practicing the all-important level of compassionate detachment where you are able to enjoy some of your time with them, despite your differences in temperament and lifestyle.”  I would suggest setting up monthly outings, or dinners where they can learn more about each other.  What advice would you suggest?

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Reflections on Fashion

Posted on April 29, 2023 by msw blog

Fashion can be Bought. Style one Must Possess. —Edna Woolman Chase 

People shop for a bathing suit with more care than they do a husband or wife. The rules are the same. Look for something you’ll feel comfortable wearing. Allow for room to grow. – Erma Bombeck

Black women look good with red lipstick. | Mademoiselle Antoine

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Counting Blessings

Posted on April 28, 2023 by msw blog

When trying to go off to sleep at night, instead of counting sheep, try counting your blessings. It can often help.” — Tom Barnes, London

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