Understanding Equanimity

Posted on March 21, 2025 by msw blog

Equanimity isn’t just staying calm when things go wrong. It’s a profound state of emotional balance that allows us to engage fully with life while maintaining our inner stability. Think of it as emotional literacy in its highest form – the ability to experience both joy and sorrow without being overwhelmed by either.

This isn’t about suppressing emotions or practicing detachment. Rather, it’s about developing emotional wisdom – the capacity to feel deeply while maintaining perspective. It’s the difference between being swept away by the emotional weather and learning to navigate through it skillfully.

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Fearing to Intrude

Posted on March 20, 2025 by msw blog

Recently, I learned through the newspaper that the son of our contractor died, apparently by suicide. We know the contractor only through work. He has done several big renos on our house over the past 15 years and a few small jobs. None of these are recent, but he would remember us, and we are quite likely to use his services again.

His son was the same age as ours, and I feel so bad for him and wonder whether we should send a condolence card. Or whether that would just be intrusive. Oscar Wilde’s fearing to intrude on a sorrow he could not lighten comes to mind.— Anonymous

Anonymous: How devastating. One way to weigh your decision: The pain of such a loss is staggering. The pain of not having that loss acknowledged by one’s village, especially a death by suicide, is terrible. The pain of receiving an unwanted card is trivial to the point of irrelevance.

In other words, send the card. It’s the least intrusive form of compassion. Keep the message simple and direct (helps avoid missteps): “We saw the news of your son, and are so sorry for your loss.”

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Creatives

Posted on March 19, 2025 by msw blog

Collaborate with other creatives: Being around other creatives gives me the freedom to create. It’s difficult to be around people that are always shutting down new ideas. I want to build new things, and it’s helpful to be in community with people that encourage that. Don’t be afraid to collaborate with others. It will often inspire you to create things you might not have thought about, keep you motivated, and help you stay accountable on your “less-creative” days.

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Blooms

Posted on March 19, 2025 by msw blog

Spring is coming, and it will be full of flowers!

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The Now

Posted on March 18, 2025 by msw blog

We dwell on the past. We worry about the future. But really, we only have now. Now is the only thing we can be sure of. And life is made of a bunch of “nows” for as long as we exist on this earth. So when I’m feeling anxious and my mind goes into a spiral of worries about what’s gonna happen next week, next month, or next year – I take a deep breath and tell myself to be here and now. Sometimes I write it down on a piece of paper as many times as I need.

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