Messy Truth

But here is the truth as I know it: life is complicated, deeply messy and incredibly challenging for most people. I’ve found that most are doing their very best and just trying to make do. At different times in our lives, all of us fall down and make mistakes. We all make choices that in hindsight might look or feel wrong. Choices we may even be ashamed of. No one gets a free pass. This is especially true of my fellow mothers. They are providers, parents, caregivers, and change agents. They are holding down multiple responsibilities, stretching budgets, nurturing lives, and enduring hurt—all with their shoulders back and their heads held high.

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Manners

I may be hopelessly old-fashioned at 73 years old, but when my children were young and received a gift, I gave them notecards, stamps, addresses, and explained the ways a “thank you” could be worded.

I encouraged them to include information about their lives, school, etc. It seems that now parents don’t care enough to teach their children to acknowledge a gift. I’ve been chastised for discontinuing to send cards/gifts/money to young people past the age of 15, who never thank me, or even acknowledge a gift.

I am frustrated that I am forced to contact the recipient simply to hear the excuse, “Oh yeah, I got it. Thanks”. Am I wrong for expecting a “thank you”, and setting the consequences?

– Disgruntled Gift Giver

Dear Giver: Social mores may change but the words “thank you” still mean the same thing. You’re not asking a lot and if your relatives can’t teach their kids to respect your boundary and acknowledge your gift, then you don’t owe it to them.

Fifteen is old enough to learn the value of healthy communication and gratitude. Besides, it’s important to remember that relationships, especially with older relatives, aren’t ATMs. Hold the line!

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Sandwhich Temptation

You don’t have to wait until tomorrow to make a turkey sandwich

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Makeba My story

“Who would have every imagined that any of this could happen so fast, and all at once? I forgive myself if  enjoy it, because there is too much danger and oppression in my country to think that any of it will last.”  (57)

Makeba My story, by Miriam Makeba with James Hall (1988, nonfiction, 249 pages).  Reading this book, I kept coming back to the obvious question “How come I never heard of her?” Miriam Makeba’s life began in poverty in South Africa, amid the cruelties of the apartheid system. From here she rose to become an internationally known singer, first introduced to an international audience by Harry Belafonte in 1959 and admired by figures such as John F. Kennedy and Nelson Mandela.  Makeba’s story is captivating. It is a story of a woman who proudly and consistently defended her country, South Africa, while discovering herself and what it means to become a celebrity, mother, and overshadowed by her husband (Black Panther‘s Stokely Carmichael) and exiled. I found myself on a beautiful emotional roller coaster and engulfed in a beautiful necessary history lesson. My only disappointment is that this book was published in 1988, and she lived until 2008.  I would have loved to hear her thoughts and reactions to apartheid ending and her eventual return to South Africa. Wanting to know more about her, I found myself listening to her record The Unforgettable Miriam Makeba (remastered 2024). Her voice is uniquely beautiful. The book and record left me thinking of the question “If you can invite anyone to dinner who would you invite?” and Ms. Makeba has been added to that list.

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Treat Your Feet

 For shower flooring that doubles as reflexology, consider pebbled mosaic tiles, which I recently installed in my bathroom. If my feet could speak, they’d say “ah” each time I step onto the textured surface. Plus, the finish adds graphic punch, making what could have been a humdrum space a focal point. Dina Cheney

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