To Leave After Leave or Not to Leave

I am halfway through my pregnancy and have begun discussing maternity leave with my H.R. rep. Thanks to paid leave, short-term disability and vacation, I plan to be out for four and a half months. However, there is a small possibility that a new job would work out for my husband, which would give me the opportunity to not return from leave and instead pursue a part-time opportunity.

I have scoured our employee handbook and paid leave guidelines, but cannot find anything about needing to pay the company back for medical costs or wages if I decide to not return. I want to ask my H.R. rep if there is any penalty for not returning, but my husband thinks this is a terrible idea. I disagree, but am I maybe not seeing something obvious?

Anonymous

My replied echoed Grays,  so I share it with you “Do not ask your H.R. rep if there is any penalty for not returning. That will only alert your employer, who is not your friend, that you are considering quitting — which could jeopardize your employment and leave. If your contract doesn’t explicitly state you cannot quit for a given amount of time after maternity leave, you have every right to quit your job whenever you choose. Is it ethical to quit? There are lots of different opinions on that. But unless contractually stipulated, it is legal. If this question is really plaguing you, consult an employment lawyer.

Even though your handbook doesn’t say, I would caution you that there could be consequences for leaving your job, including having to repay health-insurance premiums or other benefits your employer provided during your leave.

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Word of the Day

At the conclusion of 2019, YouVersion revealed that the most shared, highlighted, and bookmarked verse of the year on its online and mobile Bible app was Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” That’s quite the revelation. People are anxious about many things these days—from the needs of our sons and daughters, to the myriad ways family and friends are divided, to natural catastrophes and wars. But in the middle of all these worries, the good news is that many people cling to a verse that says, “Do not be anxious about anything.” Furthermore, those same people encourage others as well as themselves to present every request to God “in every situation.” The mindset that doesn’t ignore but faces life’s anxieties is one of “thanksgiving.” The verse that didn’t make “verse of the year” but follows it is—“And the peace of God . . . will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (v. 7). That’s quite the reassurance!

What are two or three situations you’re worried about? How might reflecting on the ways God’s peace has carried you in the past be helpful?   

Jesus, some days and weeks and years feel overwhelming. Thank You for Your peace, which guards me yesterday, today, and forever.

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Gift-Wrapping

When wrapping personalized gifts, there is no right or wrong way to do it. Sometimes, adding ribbon or a custom tag can be just as special as the gift itself. The Key is having fun and making memories.

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We Should Fight for Dissent

I love the Op-ed section of the paper. I believe we all need to write at least one letter on something we’re passionate about in our lifetime. In saying that, I applaud this reader

When people ban a book what they are saying is that they are the one who gets to decide what other people are allowed to read, what thoughts and ideas people are allowed to hear, and which thoughts and ideas are right or wrong on that particular subject. Those doing the banning don’t like to think of themselves as someone who bans books. Instead, they prefer to say challenged books, because it sounds better. However, what they are doing is banning books and trying to censor the thoughts of other people. I call that censorship.

Sometimes they say, “It’s for the children.” We know that is not true because no one has tried to stop parents from telling their children what they can and cannot read. Parents have always had that right. In other cases they say, “This language is not acceptable.” What they are really saying is that it’s not acceptable to me, and you do not have the right to have an opinion.

What both sides have in common is that they are trying to stop all dissent. I would argue that dissent is the most American quality we have, and we should fight for it.

Teresa Alsept, Ocean Shores

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Defining Wellness

Self-Care Mantra- Learn how to take your power back. Her advice for staying sane in 2022: Delia defines self-care as a scared practice of coming home to ourselves. “There’s always a porch light on to welcome us back. You just have to listen closely for the directions leading you there.” she explains a simple have she encourages is pausing to check in with yourself throughout day: “Notice any ways that your mind body, or environment are signaling imbalance or for out to slow down, drink more water, eat or drink less of something, have healthy meal , reach out to someone , take a break, spend time in solitude, go into nature, dance or listen to music. In fact, Delia credits dancing as a powerful way to transform how you’re feeling: “It’s a free somatic practice that not only physically moves the body but also moves emotions and stagnate energy- Lala Delia

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