The Pride

The Pride (372 pages, 2005, fiction) by Wallace Ford. I know it’s what inside those counts, but I felt this book should have been leather bound, and the title written in gold leaf in a fancy script. The original cover just does not do the book justice. The Pride is the name given to a social organization of African Americans that is composed of some of the most prestigious, respected professionals in New York City. “Investment bankers, corporate executives, government officials, We stalked the majestic canyons of Wall Street and prowled the murderous halls and treacherous boardrooms of corporate America. And have more than survived, we have prevailed and succeeded beyond our wildest dreams, entrepreneurs and assorted professionals who were determined to make it in America” (11). This story focuses on four individuals who are the most successful players in Wall Street and the financial market. They are sometimes friends and occasionally enemies and lovers “You know the old expression about holding your friends close and your enemies closer” (313). The book is told with multiple points of view and has a slow-moving but steady, intriguing plot. Although they are affluent and intelligent entrepreneurs, they have their fair share of secrets and skeletons in their closets. “She KNEW ME TOO WELL. And she knew that Jerome Hardaway that she met twenty something years ago, would not be in control. But times do change and so do people” (329). What I enjoyed most about the book was that it didn’t portray the characters as drama or trouble free just because they were successful professionally. They in fact were real people, with real problems. The characters are well developed, and as each of their stories gently unfold, you can’t help but wonder how each “next move” will affect the rest. This book is wonderful, it is beautifully written, the storylines are interesting, and the dialogue is fantastic. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to experience what being a member of the Black elite is like.

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5 Expert-Backed Strategies to Reduce Guilt:

  • Accept That Guilt Will Happen: No caregiver is guilt-free. It’s part of caring.
  • Give Up the Rescue Fantasy: Doing your best is enough.
  • Maintain Balance: Protect your other relationships and social life.
  • Tolerate Mixed Feelings: Anger and frustration is normal. Don’t beat yourself up.
  • Find Positive Motivation: Care because it matters to you, not because of guilt.
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Retirement

I will turn 65 in a few months and have announced my plans to retire. I have a long list of things I want to do, and after 50 years of employment and saving, I am well situated for these next years. At least, that is what my financial adviser and balance sheets tell me.

I really yearn for more discretionary time and my physical health tells me I need to get out from under a desk. My problem is that I am getting cold feet about leaving a paycheck behind.

After a lifetime of saving, how do I let myself relax into just spending?

I know this is a good problem to have on the surface, but it really is torturing me. I need some words of wisdom to help me get to the other side. Can you help me?- Undecided Plans

This is a transition, a big one. While it might seem like a phase of life that one would leap into happily, it’s right to acknowledge the complicated feelings around it, too. You’re shifting the way that you live and breaking routines that you’ve had for decades. This is going to take some adjustment. Give yourself space and time to feel that and the freedom to change course whenever you want.

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Send Cards to Friends and Family

“Leading up to the day, I’ll break out my stationery and mail off cards to coworkers who keep me sane and friends I consider family. I try to get ahead of the price jump by purchasing flowers from a local shop ahead of time so I can appreciate the blooms on the actual day. Valentine’s Day itself usually includes a facial, extra long and hot shower, a trip to a local pastry shop, a massage at the local spa, mani-pedi, and scattered phone calls to family and older friends.” Lynelle Nicole,

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Make a Home-Cooked Meal and Read a Book

“I’m choosing to go solo this Valentine’s Day — not out of loneliness, but out of self-love. I’ll start by cooking myself a gourmet meal, savoring every bite instead of rushing through my meal while doom scrolling through social media. A glass of white wine in hand, I’ll write a love letter to my future self — something I can read next year as a reminder of my growth, resilience, and worth. After that, I’ll indulge in a home spa night, letting the stress of the world melt away. And finally, I’ll curl up with a book I’ve been meaning to read for ages.” Kathryn Parsons,

Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…

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