How To Ask For a Pay Raise

My company just went through layoffs, and performance reviews are around the corner. I want to ask for a raise, but is now the right time — or should I keep my head down? — Big value, small paycheck.

1. Assess the landscape. If the job market in your field is tight and your salary aligns with industry standards (check Glassdoor), it might not be the ideal time to ask. This is especially true if you already have great benefits, like work from home flexibility or comprehensive health coverage. (Related: How Much Will Salaries Increase in 2025?)

2. Tally your contributions. Highlight how your responsibilities have expanded and tie your work to measurable impacts like driving revenue or improving efficiencies. Create a doc to keep track of these; this can be helpful to share with your manager. (Related: How To Know When To Ask for a Raise)

3. Start the conversation. Set up a meeting and ask your manager for clarity: “My performance has been strong, and I’m taking on additional responsibilities. What do you see as my future here?” They may offer insight into the timing or feasibility of a raise. Even if they can’t give you the money right now, introducing the topic can let them know you’re thinking longterm. If they don’t bring the subject up again, bring it up in three months.

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Intentional Living

This balance is not about choosing surrender over steadiness; it’s about honoring both. We need the wildness of dreams to feel fully alive, but we also need the steadiness of intentional living to protect what keeps us feeling safe in the wilderness, what makes us whole. It’s a lovely, lively dance, a constant interplay of giving and preservering, of the ethereal and grounding deep.

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African American Women

The Book of African American Women, 150 Crusaders, Creators, and Uplifters by Tonya Bolden, (1996, 352 pages) Reading this book, I kept coming back to the obvious question “How come I never heard of her?” The Book of African American Women explores the trials and tribulations, but most of all the accomplishments, of 150 women. Some of these women are well known, while others will be a welcome addition to this emerging history. These are women who—knowingly or unknowingly— changed every American’s destiny through their contributions as writers, artists, teachers, civic leaders, medical professionals, or entrepreneurs. There are those who simply represent the collective black experience— from the days of slavery through abolition, the civil rights movement, and beyond. Reading this book felt like sitting amongst my ancestors, and a group of wise women. My hope is that their story will become a film like Hidden Figures, and The Six Triple Eight or a beautiful coffee table book. This book is small, think the size of a devotional. Despite that, I highly recommend this beautiful history lesson.

Among the subjects:

Coincoin, slave turned plantation owner
Annie Davis, “Pen pal” of Abraham Lincoln
Nancy Prosser, co-leader of a slave revile
Nancy Ruffin, 19th century homemaker
Matilda Dunbar, Mother of Paul Laurence Dunbar
Ida B. Wells, anti-lynching crusader
Mary Church Terrell, “the genteel militant”
Lucy Eddie Campbell, “Mother of Gospel Music”
Jackie Ormes, Cartoonist
Willa B. Brown, Aviator
Roger Arliner Young, Zoologist
Valaida Snow, “Trumpet Queen”
Vera Jackson, photographer
Lyda Moore Merrick, co-founder of Negro Braille Magazine
Dorothy Dandridge, actress
Evelyn Boyd Granville, mathematician
Constance Baker Motley, lawyer and judge
Samella Lewis, artist, art historian, and curator
Jackie “Moms” Mabley, comedienne
Shirley Chisholm, politician
Norma Merrick Sklarek, architect
Darlene Clark Hine, historian

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Meaningful Gifts

When I was a waitress, I used to sneak a hot chocolate packet to a homeless man who loved to add it to his coffee. On valentine’s day, he gave me a red rose. I still have it pressed between pages of my dictionary.    –

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Imagine

Imagine your life as a book. What would the title of your chapter be for February, and why?

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