Create a “fun” fund…

No one can (or should) completely strip their budget down to the bare minimum. For example, it’s not realistic to say you never dine out again. If you try to deprive yourself for extended periods of time, you may swing wildly in the other direction. Instead have a slow-release valve to help with the pressure if you try to achieve a big financial goal.  Try setting aside a certain amount of money every week of the month that’s dedicated to fun stuff- e.g., going out to eat or making impulsive purchases. To make things easier, you could even set aside money on a specific debit card or withdraw a set amount of cash to pull from. This way you won’t be tempted to go over your allowance.

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Reinvention

Each reinvention requires an updated story!

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Crisis Care

I love the Op-Ed section of the paper. I believe we all need to write at least one letter on something we’re passionate about in our lifetime. In saying that, I applaud this reader

Re: “The Times recommends: Approve King County Proposition 1, the Crisis Care Centers Levy” [March 31, Opinion]:

The $1.25 billion-dollar behavioral health levy is flawed and should be rejected. The levy prioritizes the creation of five new regional behavioral health “crisis” care centers. Focusing on the crisis instead of prevention of the crisis is putting the cart before the horse.

The levy does not thoroughly address the underlying issues behind our behavioral health crisis, which is a lack of preventive behavioral health care services that aim to identify and address potential behavioral health concerns before they become severe. Providing early intervention and support helps individuals avoid the more costly behavioral health crisis services proposed by this levy.

Preventive services should include funding for diversion into tiered services including one-on-one counseling, group counseling, outpatient treatment, inpatient treatment, aftercare treatment, residential care, vocational training, group homes and other fully staffed residential services.

My viewpoint is based on my experience as someone who has struggled with mental illness and has experienced homelessness. I am also a former board member, advocate, educator and facilitator of support groups at a mental health nonprofit.

By first prioritizing preventive services, we can begin to dig out of this crisis. Please reject this levy and ask your lawmakers to provide one that prioritizes prevention first.

David Combs, Redmond

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Paint with nature

Paint with nature: I love using the abundant pollen or petals from flowers like lilies to make new watercolor paints. I usually dust the pollen off and use a muddler and some water to make it into a paste. Then I put it in a leftover glass container, and it usually makes for unique watercolor paint! — Brigit Benestante,

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Grief Etiquette

“Looking for Grief Etiquette” wrote to you about her grief after experiencing a miscarriage.

As a retired obstetrician, I have had considerable experience with this. One point I discussed with patients early in pregnancy was the fact that pregnancy loss is much more common than most people realize.

I suggested that they carefully consider whom they tell about their pregnancy until after the first trimester, when pregnancy loss is much less common, thus avoiding the problem of telling many people the bad news.

I also found advice I was given 15 years ago, when my wife died, very helpful

The insight was that people who asked, “What can I do?” of a grieving person really are asking because they don’t know how to be helpful.

My answer, at that difficult time, was: “Invite me to dinner.”

I think it was win-win.

This helped me, and I think they were glad to do something that I appreciated. This woman who had miscarried had her answer: “Send me some flowers.” She should not have hesitated to ask this of her friends.

– Neil Kochenour, MD

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