Enough was Enough

At the peak of the pandemic, I sat down one day worrying about the future for my children and myself. If this was the end of the world, was this how my life would be summed up? I looked at all the shoes and dress I had piled up but rarely wrote. I have been saving for my “someday” – that special day off in the future. With so much destruction all around, I decided enough was enough. When the virus died down, I moved to a new place and started beautifying my space with plants and nice plates. I decluttered my wardrobe. I treated myself to some expensive jewelry that I actually wear. I then joined a woman’s group and started saying “yes” to more meetups. Its’s been a few months, and I am the happiest; I’ve been in a long time. I remembered that I am important, and I am worth the best of everything right now – Chidi Koldsweat


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6 Questions to Ask During A Senior Housing Tour

Revel Issaquah is a resort-style collection of 146 luxury apartment homes for ages 55 and older.

How do I feel when I’m here? First impressions can tell you a lot, so pay attention to how you feel as you take in the property. “Ask yourself, ‘How do I feel when I’m in this community?’ Consider the atmosphere and whether it feels comfortable and inviting. Also, schedule your tour during an active time of day to get a more accurate read on the community.

Could this feel like home? Your goal may be to free yourself of responsibilities of homeownership you no longer want or need, but that doesn’t mean giving up your sense of “home. ”Ask yourself, ‘Can I imagine living here and making it my home? Could I comfortably invite my friends and family to this place?’ Does the place fit in with your vision of how you see your life unfolding?’’

What are my dining options in this community? A tour of any independent living community should allow you to experience available dining options and decide whether their options meet your needs. Some key questions to ask, a “Does it feel like I’ll be eating food created by a chef each day? Will I want to eat here every day? Can I cook if I want to? Can I eat whenever I want — just like in a restaurant?” Ask about dining hours and flexibility. Can you choose when and where you eat, or are you tied to a schedule? 

What makes this community different from others? Most independent living communities offer dining and recreational options, so pay attention to intangibles that are harder to define but which can set one property above the rest. “During your tour, ask yourself, ‘Can I have this experience or lifestyle someplace else? Or does this community offer something others don’t?’ One way to help determine if a community is unique in its offerings is to inquire about the amenities that make it one of a kind — think onsite gyms, entertainment options and learning opportunities. Asking these types of detailed questions helps get to the root of what makes a location unique and helps you see how you’d fit in.

What does my monthly rent get me at this community? Location, demographic of residents, and amenities will play a big role in your final decision. But for many individuals, it really comes down to the price. “Ask to see a comparison of the costs of homeownership versus what is included in your monthly rent,” “Most communities will include utilities, housekeeping and dining in your monthly rent, so you’ll want to understand what sets theses services apart from one community to another.”

Does the community encourage a culture of wellness? Ask what types of groups exist, or will be created, within the community and the process for joining them. “Are there onsite coordinators or instructors leading engaging social, educational and physical activities? Will there be opportunities to form meaningful relationships with new neighbors and friends?”

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Build an On-Ramp

Superfans aren’t created; they’re cultivated. “Give people little, easy ways to participate, and then you gradually get them further and further up the curve,” Barnett says. Little Spoon, for example, launched an online platform called “Is This Normal?,” where parents can get their burning questions answered. The more opportunities you create for engagement, the more people feel attached…and start telling others. “Over time, that’s your marketing channel,” she says. “These people are out there advocating for you. And that’s the goal.”

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Last Meal

What’s your if-I-only-had-one-meal-left meal? Sushi dinner. And a lot of sake. A lot of sake. For dessert: a piece of vanilla confetti cake—that’s my favorite kind of cake. Jesse Tyler Ferguson

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How much do you need?

It’s easy to get carried away with visions of a bountiful garden and buy way too many seeds or plant starts. Starting small as you get to know your growing conditions — perhaps with one raised bed or a handful of pots — will save you money and heartbreak. 

“Some beginner-friendly things to try are tender leafy greens like lettuce or arugula that are very forgiving,” “Also, peas are a great choice — you can put up a trellis support, or you can seed heavily and eat the pea shoots. They’re delicious. Even in a container you can build your self-confidence and success in gardening.”

Also, think about your motivation: Are you gardening as a hobby with some edible benefits, or with the aim of making a winter’s worth of tomato sauce?  

How much food are you hoping to get from your garden? Some are doing it as an activity with their children, some are doing it as a mindfulness hobby, and some are supplementing what they’re buying from the store.

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