Flexibility is key. Write your resolutions in pencil and feel absolutely no shame in switching them up as life does what it does. You aren’t supposed to be the exact same person in 365 days as you are now, so it truly is OK if you don’t want the exact same things or if timelines change. It’s actually more than OK. It should be expected. Expect yourself to grow and plan on extending lots of grace to yourself. Grace allows you to make room for both the pain and joy that is simply a part of having a human experience.
Sounds boring, doesn’t it? It won’t be boring when you can retire early and lounge on Spanish beaches all day because you’ve made decades’ worth of decisions to get you there. On the other hand, a lifetime of living in the moment can be self-destructive and set you back long-term with all varieties of health: physical, mental, relationship, and financial.
Take a micro-moment to consider. What could be the consequences of having unprotected sex with him? I have to drive home—should I have one more drink? Do I buy these shoes or contribute to my IRA?
The good news is, sometimes the wild decision is what’s best for your future self. Sometimes the 2:00 a.m. frozen pizza is the future-thinking choice, if it’ll help you from being hungover tomorrow. Learn your perfect, and likely ever-changing, balance between what you need now and what you’re going to need in the future.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
SMART Goals really are where it’s at!I imagine most of you have sat through some really boring HR presentations about SMART goals at work, and while I agree most presentations on the topic are less than riveting, the method really is solid. Research proves that your New Year’s resolutions should be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely. Did you get that? No vague resolutions this year! Check them against the SMART method and revise them until they meet the standard.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
Organize your calendar—weeks, months, and, if applicable, years in advance. Routinely carving out time to organize your online calendar helps you see important happenings, like upcoming bills, birthdays, and events, weeks and months in advance, signaling you to prepare.
In my Google calendar—bless that piece of Internet gold—green events indicate when scheduled payments are coming out of my banking accounts. Four times a year, additional green events remind me to pay my quarterly taxes—two weeks before they’re due, so I have wiggle room to get my money in order. My yoga instructor’s birthday is noted every December 10 through 2023. There’s a work project I’m supposed to check in about in early summer, but I’d never remember that on my own; anything work-related is color-coded coral. I plug oil changes in my calendar weeks before I need them, to get them on my radar in case my schedule fills up and I need to push it back.
