“You are unmatchable,” proclaimed a dating site after I’d spent a day filling out their forms. This was not the first time I had heard this sentiment. My mother and some other family members have said as much: “You’re too sensitive.” “You’re too picky.” “You’re just unlucky.” Good thing I admire myself enough to know that if I bought the vintage 18K Christian Dior wedding band that I saw at a Manhattan street fair, I could match myself with myself. And I did. — Jenny Klion
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something
My tomato plants have yellowing leaves with brown spots. What is causing this and how can I fix it?
A: When the lower leaves of a tomato plant are yellowing around the edges with scattered brown spots, this is likely caused by early blight, a fungal disease.
Since the newer growth looks healthy, I recommend removing the lower leaves and tossing them in the trash (don’t compost them). Avoid overhead watering since this can spread the spores to new leaves. A weekly application of a copper-based fungicide can be helpful in preventing reappearance. Consider rotating your vegetable planting for next year’s garden.
“This place is a mess,” my father said in a stern voice, surprising me as he looked around the room. “Are you going to clean it?” Not sure how to respond, I simply said, “Yes.” He nodded, then strode out of my childhood bedroom on his cane, forgetting that he was elderly, that I had grown up and moved out decades earlier, that he was the one who had made the mess. You can’t go back to the past. But my father’s dementia briefly let me relive a moment from the 1960s, when I was his little girl. — Lisa Braxton
When I have the option to wait a few seconds to hold the door open for someone, I do. If I’m able to spend five extra minutes in savasana, I take it. If my friend’s been struggling with a difficult pregnancy, I check in. Why? Because it’s the nice thing to do.
Doing the nice thing is not about recognition; it’s a many-times-daily reminder to do the kind thing for both others and yourself, especially when no one is looking. You’ll condition your brain to think considerately, however small the deed. Remember though: If the “nice thing” takes advantage of you, your time, or your generosity, then it isn’t nice to begin with. Know your boundaries.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…