For Family Members: Questions to Ask (and Avoid)
Some questions feel like love. Others feel like audits. Here’s the difference:
Instead of asking: “So when are you going to settle down?” “Why are you still single?” “Don’t you want kids?”
Try: “How have you been taking care of yourself lately?” “What’s bringing you joy right now?” “What are you excited about?”
Instead of: “Why did you and [partner’s name] break up?” “Are you dating anyone yet?” “You’re not getting any younger, you know.”
Say: “I’m glad you’re here with us.” “How are you doing, really?” Or simply, “It’s good to see you.”
The goal isn’t to avoid all personal topics. It’s to lead with care instead of curiosity. Let people share what they want to share, when they’re ready.
