The point is less what we choose than that we have the power to make a choice.” — Gloria Steinem
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
Our phones do not deserve all the attention we give them; the people right in front of us do. People blossom under attention—especially children. Read a book with a little one. Spend one-on-one time with a teenager. Make it a date with a special someone in your life. Ask a person with half a dozen decades or more of life experience to share his or her story with you. People crave being seen and heard and made to feel relevant. Giving someone your attention is more valuable than anything you could wrap in a box and place under a tree.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something
If God is here for us and not elsewhere then in fact this place is Holy, and this moment is sacred. God is the friend of silence, trees, flowers, grass grow in silence, growth is silence. See the states, the moon and how they move in silence. – Mother Teresa –
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something
I finished grad school recently and just started a new corporate job that I’m excited about. However, I’m really nervous about needing to tell my supervisors and co-workers that I need to leave work for an hour each week to go to therapy. Although I see my therapist in the evening, this is a somewhat demanding, salaried position, and it’s not uncommon to have to work in a team to complete a project until late in the evening.
If I don’t disclose the true reason I need to step out, I’m worried that I might be asked to stay at work and miss my sessions. If I do disclose the reason I need to leave, I’m concerned that I might face stigma for going to therapy. My new company claims it is very progressive, but I’ve learned to be wary of large corporations over the years. Do you have any tips on how I should handle this situation?
You don’t need to explain why you need one hour a week away from the office. Just tell your supervisor you need an hour of personal time each week and that you’ll return to the office after your personal time, as needed. And good for you for making time for therapy. I go twice a week. It is blocked off in my calendar so my staff knows I am unavailable. The appointments we must keep for ourselves are as important as any others.
You’ve been open about therapy being part of your life. Are you still working with a therapist?
Yes. When you have trauma, eventually it needs to be reprocessed. What I’m working on with my therapist now is building up my resourcing, so that when it’s time to reprocess the trauma, it’s not re-traumatizing. You don’t want to flood yourself revisiting that trauma because that can keep you from healing—you have to go slowly. My therapist defines trauma as too much too fast, or too little for too long.
How does the work you’re doing in therapy affect your life?
The falling-in-love process has been overwhelming. The work is to be able to receive it and feel I’m worthy of the love. Hello, I’m worthy because I’m a child of God and worthiness is a birthright. But I can’t believe I’m being treated this well, after all these years. It’s taken me nearly 50 years to get here. It can be overwhelming. Love has to be constantly renewed and cared for. When you’re really vulnerable with someone, there’s something beautiful and incredible about that. When you’re vulnerable, you’re woundable. You have the capacity to be hurt. And when someone is vulnerable with you, you have the capacity to hurt them. That is an awesome responsibility. It’s something I don’t take lightly. It is an honor to be loved and to love. It’s a huge responsibility to have someone’s heart.
